Should I get in touch with old friends again?

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I used to be pretty good friends with some people but I really declined socially around the time I started going to high school. They all go to the other high school and I feel excluded here since everyone here knows each other from their middle school. I've been unable to make friends in the 3 years that I've been here and the people aren't as friendly. Classmates from middle school added me on Facebook even if we didn't talk and I really liked that, we all knew each other and were all friends to some degree. Now, it's almost the end of the year and there's people in my own class that still don't even know my name. I really miss those old friends and it's to the point where I'm considering switching to that school for my final year. I feel that talking to them in person would be the best way to get back with them as it would be awkward for me to suddenly start talking to them again online. What should I do? I never make friends outside of school as they don't seem to be interested in being friends. I just want to go back to friends and people I am familiar with. How would you feel if your old friend decides to talk to you again for the first time in 3 years? I don't even know what I'm going to do over the summer, probably just sit alone in my room every day. I'm really tired of not having friends

i'd be happy if an old friend talked to me.

Go for it, if it's impacting your schoolwork, if it's not then you might want to tough it out for one more year to avoid having to get used to a new building, new teachers,a nd everything else. They might be old friends but there is a tradeoff.

My friends were mostly at other schools, too, my junior year because one went to Europe as an exchange student, I hung around with the speech team whcih kept me busy but my closest friends were at the other schools. And one guy I did have as a friend who came that year ( a year behidn me) had some issues, though they didn't surface till later..

But, we had things in common and eventually my senior year this one kid was back from Europe and it worked out okay; as busy s I was I still talked on the phone a lot and my house or a friend's from the other school's house were like the main gathering place outside of school.

So, my point is, we had plenty of contact even though we were at different schools. I would definitely get back in touch with them and see if some arrangements can be made to be together outside of school like mine. A change in schools might help, but it's not the only way.

I'm worrying over nothing really but I don't know what I should do. This is my first real attempt at trying to be social and I just don't know how to suddenly transition. I feel awful for not talking to them in years even though we were friends on Facebook all the way back to 2010. How do do I go from being the asocial quiet kid to just a normal guy? There is a particular guy I would really like to talk to again but I don't know what he would think if he got a message from me for the first time in 3 years. I feel like he would think I'm just using him for something and he's sort of that macho kind of guy where I have difficulty telling him how I really feel. It's also because of that I felt uncomfortable becoming better friends with him. Like what am I supposed to say to break the silence? I really don't want to go with the generic "long time no see, how have you been?" But nothing else is coming up in my mind. He also seems to be in his own group and I have trouble with that. It always seems to me like my friends are a lot busier and care less about me when they're already in their own group of friends. Is there any easy way to join the group? Even if I have to push a little more, I think I could try