It's difficult and it's lonely, but there's nothing "wrong" with it.
You talk about pretty girls like you're trying to make friends with them in the hopes of it becoming something more. If this is the case, you really should re-think your strategy. This is from Dr Nerdlove's website (which I can heartily recommend as full of great advice) which seems to fit this occasion. And yes, I used to do this for years too before I realised I needed to change my approach:
Quote:
Friend Zone v.2 : The Big Lie From a Nice Guy
The second form of the Friend Zone involves being in a relationship under false pretences. This is, surprisingly enough, the most common form; it?s the end result of the Platonic Friend Back-door Gambit, wherein a person ? almost always a man - pretends to only be interested in a platonic friendship with the hope that he can weasel his way into her heart and/or panties, given enough time. It?s the move by men who ultimately fear rejection and would rather submit themselves to the Friend Zone than risk losing the fantasy. This is fundamentally dishonest and a complete dick move; the pretender is trading on somebody?s willingness to believe him when he insists that he doesn't have ulterior motives in trying to be friends with her. Ironically, the men who find themselves in this form of the Friend Zone have the hardest time recognizing the harm they?re doing ? both to themselves and to the women that they claim to care about.
Those online friendships of yours are only as fake as you make them. You're interacting with another person that you're interested in, and that is interested in you. You'll learn about and from each other, and it'll help you understand your own shortcomings when it comes to social interaction. The only thing making it fake in your head is the distance.
Check out
drnerdlove.com if that small quote resonates with you at all, it's full of great advice and very suitable for those on the spectrum.
26 May 2014, 10:43 am
