Randomly winking at people.

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So, today I caught myself randomly winking at a co-worker. I wasn't trying to convey anything, It was definitely not someone that I would want to take me flirtatiously. I have no idea why.

I remembered that I did this a sometimes at my last job.

I'm not even sure what a wink is supposed to convey, to be honest. It seemed inappropriate and like it just slipped out. I felt really awkward about it.

I know that we have trouble with eye contact, but could this be an Aspie thing too?
Can anyone relate?
I am on the verge of being diagnosed and still trying to decipher what might be relevant to bring up vs. what is not.

I have a tendency to wink at pretty girls/women a little too much.

I'm thinking maybe you have a desire to communicate--but, as Tony Attwood states, you might express this desire in "awkward" ways.

People are stupid that way on jobs: I would try to refrain on the winking until you get to know these people better.

There's this guy at my job who's my manager. He always winks at me. I don't think it's sexual, though. He's a shy guy; he's trying to communicate to me, albeit awkwardly.

Thanks for the response. I agree that I have a desire to communicate that I am finding very difficult to fulfill.
Several people, including even my partner of 16+ years, have characterized me as an introvert, and I have always rankled at that characterization. I may be a bit over-selective with whom I take an interest, but I do desire to know people. I think autism may explain why I want to have a much wider social circle, but don't.

Looking back, I can not honestly say that I don't sometimes avoid social interaction, nor that I don't frequently relish my alone time. But I think the first is explained by embarrassment and how painfully difficult it is for me, and the second might be explained by how it gives me time to engage in certain behaviors without judgement.

When I am alone, I often pace a lot. I often sing too, mostly the same short phrases from just a couple of songs. I remember a time not long before the autism idea dawned on me, that I got so frustrated with myself for singing. My throat was getting sore and I was annoyed with myself for singing the same thing over and over. I kept trying to resolve to stop, but then the next thing I knew, I was at it again. I think on this occassion I even started talking aloud, telling myself to "Stop it!'. Would pacing and singing be qualified as stims? And can people stim and be annoyed about it at the same time, if stimming is a release?

My resolve to stop singing may have stood up a little better if my short-term memory hadn't turn to crap. I'm pretty sure that I have ADD too, but the idea of trying to address two new Dx's at once is just....ugh! Being alone also gives me a chance to dive into my special interests, but lately its more like I am just skimming them because of my total lack of focus.

I'm guessing this Atwood is a writer that I need to read?

This is the clearest thing I've written in days. Yay! I communicate better in writing and I was a bit overwhelmed this weekend when I was unable to arrange my thoughts on paper- or computer, rather.

I'm So glad it's not just me who does this!

I work in customer servies, (possibly the worst job for an aspie), and find myself winking at most people. I find it's more of a tic, than a concious desire to convey any meening. It's just somehting that hapens when i'm stressed, or having to "put on thr act" the "persona" of a neuro typcal person. It also affects my eye brows.

Outside of this setting, I do have a regular, lets call it a "twitch" in my right shoulder. It's like when you shudder in the cold or feel some one "walking over your grave" as the saying goes. And I can't control it. Somtimes I can even fele it comming, like a yawn, or the urge to be sick, btu again, ter eis nothing i can do to stop it. I'm putting it down to my idiot brain.