bad somewhat disheartening experiances with other aspie frei

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i have a pair of freinds who (like me) have aspergers and some pretty serious isnues have come between us and i feel like its time to move on. It was a hard decision to make but in general i feel like they always underestemated me and that when i was with them i was living a stereotype of what people like us where supposed to be like and like we always were kinda "the only ones each other could turn to" and like it was limiting me and that i wasent doing what i wanted with my life, i guess you could say it was a fourm of internallized prejeduce. they actually stoped me from picking up chicks by saying "hes ret*d dont listen to him" at one point even though i hadent messed up in any way and they always talked about how lonley and pathetic and stuff they where and joked about it all the time. it never felt like a group i wanted to be part of and it always had the undertone of us being the rejects that could never be as good as other people, which is part of why i was hesitant to join a site like this but you all seem a lot more proud and suportive then they where. i am just wondering, has anyone else experianced this?or internalized shame within the comunity in general?

I've only met two, possibly three other people with AS in my knowledge, so I can't say that I've been in your situation. However, I have been in that situation with non AS people more times than I care to admit. All I can say is that if they treated you that way knowing that you have AS like they do, they aren't worth holding onto, especially if it has been going on for some time. They say that time heals all wounds; I partially agree with that. I believe that after a certain amount of time one moves on from pain they've suffered and doesn't let it dominate their life, but it never goes away and the memories are with you forever. But you can use them and learn from them to better yourself as a person.

Don't let this pothole in the highway of life bring you down.

If the friendship is not healthy then you would be doing yourself more harm than good.