I accidentally befriended someone REALLY annoying.

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Sorry this is so long; I don't expect people to read all of this, it's just nice to write all this down somewhere. Title is basically the TL;DR and I just want advice on how to... get this girl out of my life?

So two years ago, me and my sister were in the same P.E. class as one of her friends, let's call her Other Girl. Me and Other Girl, we had the same interests, and we were in the same grade, so I guess we hit it off? Anyway, turns out one of my church friends went to middle school with Other Girl and basically told me and my sister to stop hanging out with her - she said no one in middle school liked Other Girl, Other Girl was really loud, annoying, and was offended by everything, but liked saying casually racist stuff all the time. Since I only hung out with Other Girl in P.E., I didn't see her actual personality, so I figured she changed from her middle school years.

Next school year, I hang with Other Girl at lunch, since I didn't have other friends with the same lunch as me. We ate with Other Girl's friends, who I really didn't like, but Other Girl insisted I sit with them, and they liked having an Asian to hang out with. Sure, eating with her meant I wouldn't be alone, but I never understood what any of them were talking about. I still liked Other Girl at the time, and since she was always busy this was my only chance to hang out with her.

Second semester we started eating together by ourselves in this one room. And that's when I realized I didn't like her at all. She always cut me off when I was talking, talked about things I straight up said I knew nothing about, and it was just culture shock to hang out with her... She's so different from me, she didn't value school like me, and she was so "American" compared to me. She'd make jokes about Asians and people who don't speak English well. I hated it, but she gets offended so easily, she gets offended when I tell her that her racism offends me.

Now I don't have any lunches or classes with her, but she likes skipping her 4th period class to see me at lunch. I really don't want to put up with her anymore, but she keeps spotting me in school. What do?

whenever she tries to talk to you, be busy. studying, talking to someone else, anything. she'll get the message.

I used to have a friend like that in Grade 8, she would get offended so easily at the smallest things that anyone said to her, she was really defensive and on edge all the time. She was racist too, she would always use racial slurs and stereotypes. Even when someone was just trying to be nice or crack a joke, she would lash out at them. She misunderstood something I said once and she got mad and texted me saying she never wanted to be friends anymore, and that I was a b**ch and that everyone else thought so too. Everyone didn't like her and thought she was really rude. She had major mental health issues and got suspended at the end of Grade 8 for pulling a knife on someone. I even heard rumours that she was a prostitute and using drugs.

Sorry to go off-topic, it really sucks having a friend like that, I suggest that you just try to talk to other people, sit with other kids at lunch, before and after school etc.