Strangeness aka WTFBBQHAX

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I'm never so good with reading body language and facial expressions.

Well, there's this girl in my class. She will be more withdrawn when she is around her mates, but will come up and have a chat with me whenever I turn up in the same place as here ie dining hall.

Then there's these... facial expressions, sort of like a smile. Not too sure what they were, but I thought I had freaked her out when I accidentally went on a massive tangent (always do that), but guess how she still comes up to me every so often, I definitely haven't scared her away.

Always felt nervous around girls... I think she is trying to befriend me? Any ideas?!

Being a bit like that myself, my guess is that she likes you and wants to get to know you more, but does not want to address you in a group. She sounds more comfortable talking alone.

If you want to talk to her more, try and make opportunities to talk to her alone. Don't go up to her while she is in a group and single her out. Instead, wait for her to leave the group. For example, you could wait for her in the hallway after class and catch up with her as she is leaving (if she is leaving alone.) Or, if she leaves first, try to catch up with her (but not to the point where you have to be extremely obvious to do so.)

I am not saying her interest is a romantic one - it may be just on a friendship level. But whatever her interest in you is, she is not ready to make that known to the public.

If she doesn't have time to talk after class, you could use the opportunity to make a plan to meet up for lunch instead of waiting for you both to be coincidentally in the same place at the same time. Or, you could suggest studying together. These are not really dates - they are just planned meetups and planned possibilities for conversation.

If she doesn't respond positively to the suggestion to plan to meet up for lunch or studying, I would just let things be and let her talk to you randomly as it is now. If you do meet up for lunch or studying, you can see how things go. If it seems to go well, you could ask, "Would you like to do this again?" Keep it very casual.

Thanks for the advice, though wouldn't some constitute to slightly, stalkery behaviour...?

Oh, and she occasionally glances at my direction in class (when there is clearly nothing behind me). No idea what that is about. Makes me a bit paranoid. Damn humans and our supposedly expressive (actual papers on it) eyes!