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K_Kelly
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26 Oct 2014, 8:52 pm

How often do people, socially aware ASD and NT alike, post messages on forums. I rarely have any good or outside-the-box things to say at all, and some people who were on this board for around a year or less already have a higher post count than I do. How does it work? And I want to start being an engaging person on forums and actually reply to posts something thoughtful rather than asking too many topics. The other thing is, my head forgets what I learned about how to be socially confident and engaging when it's most needed. Can anyone help me.



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26 Oct 2014, 9:43 pm

I get this too. I'm just too hesitant to reply so I do not. My advice is to just try and reply.

It doesn't matter if it's awkward or of little help, I mean we all make mistakes and hey, that's what this forum is mostly made up of - aspies who struggle with social communication.



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27 Oct 2014, 6:45 am

Well it's funny because I kind of feel like I'm always posting on Wrong Planet and that I reply to tons of threads -- yet my averaged post count, according to my profile, says: "2.29 posts per day." It feels like I make a lot more than just two and a bit posts everyday, lol. Two posts per day really isn't much.

I do usually find quite a few topics that are interesting to read but which I have no personal contribution to make to, or I don't post because several people have already said exactly what I wanted to say or had the same experience I had. In fact even the posts I do make will sometimes just be concurring with someone that what they've experienced is also what I've experienced, perhaps with a different twist if mine have a slight difference.

Sometimes even if you have nothing new to add, it may in fact help someone to feel better about something they are worrying about, just to hear that others experience the same thing.

I think you shouldn't be concerned too much about what your post-count is, as it doesn't matter. What's important is just posting when you want to and not because you think you should, and posting when you have something you want to say. It's okay not to, I "don't post" way more than I "do post" as a I read a lot more of other people's conversations than I take part in.