Double standards at school

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Does anyone remember back when they were in secondary school, and seeing the more popular kids often behaving like lunatics and still being seen as cool, but if you behaved the exact same way everybody would laugh at you and call you a freak?

Once when I was about 14 I was standing in a crowded hallway at school. I was standing by a group of boys, and they were just having a casual conversation about their interests. Then out of the blue one of the boys went up to the wall and started hitting the wall, just for no reason. His mates took no notice, and then another one of them gave the wall a punch, and nobody else took no notice either. But as I stood there and observed these teenagers, I imagined myself running up to a wall in the middle of a conversation and just random hitting it, and I knew that everybody would wonder what I'm doing and laugh at me and think I'm mental or something.

Does anyone here remember seeing teenagers doing goofy or weird things, what you know would be looked upon as creepy and weird if you done the exact same thing?

In high school, kids could get away with doing things they shouldn't have but when I would do it, they would tell the teacher if they asked. But if they did it and the teacher asked who, no answer.

My aide would tell me I look goofy or tell me to stop but when other kids would do it, she ignored it.

I often didn't do goofy things so I didn't have this problem too much.

Definitely.

It's strange: good social skills can lead to someone being considered 'cool', being cool seems to exempt people from having to follow 'rules for 'normal' behaviour', but apparently it's necessary to follow those rules in order to be considered as having good social skills or being cool in the first place? That might not make sense - my head isn't working.

From what I've gathered, it's definitely more than behaviour and social skills.

I certainly wasn't "blessed" with masculine and symmetric looks back when I was still in school, neither were my motorics "blessed" with handiness and coordination skills.

Add social ineptitude to that package and you'd be wondering why I haven't been sliced in pieces yet.

I haven't noticed any marked difference in looks between people who are popular and not so, but I guess I don't know what I'd be looking for, so you might have a point.

I also can't say much regarding coordination. Maybe it depends on a mixture of factors.