I don't know how to start talking to people I know

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I always feel like I have a reputation for being the quietest person ever and if I even tried to change it, it would bring a ton of attention to me that I'm not quiet anymore. This weekend I was touring colleges and my friend happened to go to one of them. I had planned on meeting her to ask about the one she went to. It was the first time we saw each other in 7 years and I didn't really know what to say. Whenever this happens where they already know I'm quiet, I just feel like staying that way even more. It really makes me feel weird to have known each other for about 10 years and just now I start wanting to talk to her. It makes me so nervous to do that and I just decide to keep being quiet. I am even certain that she would love to talk to me but this anxiety is preventing me from talking to her, even online. I used to be able to talk to people online fairly easily but now it's just as hard as talking in person.

Another example is my friend at school. She keeps telling me to eat lunch with her but every time I just go and eat by myself. I ate with her 2 times and I basically just spectated her conversations with her other friends. I can always imagine myself talking to her normally but when I'm actually there I just stay quiet. It really confuses me that I can say all of this online without any of that anxiety.

Why not ask the person in college about the college that she is going to, and where you might go?