Hanging up on friend

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A little while ago I got a call from a friend of mine who had left me a message. So I called him back only to find out that he wanted to talk to me while he was driving. I found out that he was only calling to dump on me over making an order online and not getting all parts that he had wanted. He also said that he would not be able to return it until he got everything in the mail next to a refund.

Then he asked if I still wanted to attend happy hour on Thurs. I inquired where it was and he told me that he did not remember. I said that I had a conference for work and started going into the details. I heard him say "Shorter story please." So I did.

Then he said "I did not mean to lose my patience but I don't have time to talk and I don't feel like talking on the phone." I felt insulted and I said "Excuse me" then I just hung up without saying goodbye.

How could I have handled this situation better?

Very hypocritical he sounds to be. Talking about his stuff, when you probably weren't interested at all but being polite and then you doing it and then being told to hurry up.

Well #1 it was his idiotic decision to be on the phone while driving. If I were you I'd say "Call back when you aren't driving" and hangup or something similar.
#2 He must've been lying. 'Don't feel like talking on the phone' was most likely some excuse to end the conversation especially since he took the tricky task of answering your call while driving upon himself.

You were very much justified. Don't feel bad even though you didn't say goodbye. You handled that better than I would've which would've caused an entire argument over the phone and a lot of insult throwing in his general, over-the-air, direction.

He was in the car because I could hear the noise in the background. I felt like he was just calling me because he wanted something. Here we just had Thanksgiving and he could not even bother to tell me what he was up to or ask me how my weekend was. Instead it was all about his stupid wii.

There are other things that I am wondering about that I will not mention at this time.

After I hung up he did not even bother to text or call me to apologize and I don't want to talk to him until he does such.

You are justified. Don't feel bad about it. You did the best you could do.

I thought it was very strange that he wanted to just talk to me while he was in the car like that. He did this a few weeks ago on a Friday night where he was driving from one venue to another. Yet he wasn't short with me like he was this time. He did cut me me off when he got to his second destination.

"Well I have to go. I am getting close to the place where I am getting dinner tonight."

I would say that would be something different. He had to leave to go eat. I guess he could've waited until he really got there instead of just close to the place but maybe. Though if he keeps interrupting you then I'd just not say much anymore since he doesn't seem to be interested.

I think part of the problem is that he likes me but I don't like him back in,the same way.

As for his rigidness he too is on the spectrum as well. It would seem that his perfect routine got interrupted so he was upset. At the same time...

Didn't he contact you first?