How to tell my friend he's an aspie?

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So I am a mild aspie, but more ADHD, and have a friend that clearly has Aspergers. He is rigid, talks in a way that seems "off" for a 14-year-old from time to time, imitates TV/movie characters (sometimes), sometimes has eye contact issues, and is INSANELY socially awkward. What I mean is asking a girl about Urban Dictionary definitions, repeatedly telling "your face" jokes at everything, obviously making up dreams that he thinks would be funny, asking out a girl 3 times even though it's seemingly obvious that she doesn't like him back yet (and getting a meltdown every time) and saying weird things like "I think I'm losing my sanity" all the time. He also gets meltdowns a lot. He doesn't get directly bullied of very often, but he has a reputation for doing things like that and people misunderstand him. People do talk about him behind his back and not always be nice to him directly in these situations, and there's not all that much I can do to defend him when he just wrote a song about heroin (he doesn't do drugs he just was imitating the band Korn) and asked someone if they liked it, or say "you look like a block of cheese" repeatedly. He is trying too hard to be cool, and while I was never as bad as he is, I used to be even more unpopular than I am now and did stuff almost as bad. Because of this I can empathize with him, and feel really bad for him, and I think I want to tell him some time or another that he has Aspergers and not just ADHD, even though he is very sensitive. He does idolize me and looks up to me, and it's hard to tell him that that's unhealthy if he wants to be more of a leader himself. It's also hard to tell someone that they're too confident dating advise-wise (he isn't afraid to make a sex joke in front of a girl he likes). I feel even worse for him because he is EXTREMELY extroverted, and is very social, he just doesn't know how to be. How do I help him?

Well, at age 14, I had no idea I was an "Aspie"
and in fact, the term hadn't been invented yet.

I'm trying to think of whether it's a good idea or not for you to even bring it up to your friend.

If you do, maybe you could start by saying something like,
"You know, sometimes you remind me a little bit of me."

When he asks "How?"

... then you could answer by saying,
"Well, I'm an Aspie ... "
and then you could list off several of the
behaviors that you do, that he does also.

You could make it more of a question than
telling him.

In any case, thank you for being a good friend to him.

...

14 years old .. don't worry

It's call hormone rage

Too many teens acting weird and kiddish, some people just develop their brain slower.