Can think of anything to say...

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I recently got back into uni from holidays. Really happy to see some people, but can't think of anything to say to them...
Even more problematic as they are no really close friends either... just happy to see them. To make things worst, they do not share the same classes as I do any more...
Crap.
Any suggestions?!

How was your holiday

Ack. So obvious, yet did not come to me at that moment...

I think the real problem here for me is when I am not expecting company/socializing etc, I freeze up.

Oh my goddddd I know how you feel.

I might have bad advice since I have trouble with this too. But what I do is I read some books about "what to talk about with people"

Say hi and tell its been a long time since you last spoke to eachother, I do that but I'm not sure because I don't know your friends so I don't know how they will react but my friends seem cool with it.

This is with kids so your mileage may vary, but I will sometimes say in a joking way, "So, which of those topics adults always ask do you want to discuss, favorite sport, what you want to do when you grow up," maybe list 1-2 more. The joking manner tends to be good to break the ice with new kids in my department, anyway.

So, maybe adopt a lighthearted tone and ask, "So, what aspexct of the holiday season do you wish to discuss?"

Other tiems I'll ask if they did anything interesting,a nd if the kid says "no" (not uncommon) I'll ask, "Did you do anything boring?" in a lighthearted tone and then (or without the "boring" question I'll ask, "Did you do anything..." and throw in a really uninque adjective. (Unique, thought-provoking, etc.) Again, kids may enjoy the lighthearted and unique approach better than adults but I find they seem to enjoy me. But, maybe it's becasue I've learned to be myself and they accept me for that becasue they're just learning how to interact themselves.

When I am with others (outside of my immediate family), I also have a hard time thinking of things to say.

I do best, when I think of a list of topics to discuss beforehand. With that being said, depending upon the individual, oftentimes I have a hard time even coming up with such a list.

I didn't realize this until very recently (specifically, after I was diagnosed), that the person I consider my life-long friend, when I am with him, he dominates the conversation. We talk about what he is interested in talking about. If I ever bring up a subject that I want to talk about, he instantly changes the topic. To something he wants to talk about. As a result, I mainly listen to him talk (with the occasional question or some noise to indicate I am listening - even if I sometimes am not listening).

Some friend he is!