Nobody wants to be my friend :(

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I am always trying to meet people and some actually start to become my friends but when I get to socializing with them they realize that I am very different. Some think that I am slow. They know that I am intelligent but I just do not pick up on the conversation. I just can't fit in with the cool crowd because I am to fascinated with random things that others do not even notice. I do not fit in with the nerds either. IDK why maybe because I am in good shape with a sleeve tattoo and they assume I am one of the cool kids.
Luckily I found a girl who somehow understood what I was deep down. We had a kid but my emotional ineptness proved too much for her. The bad thing is that I never loved her. I do not even know if I could. I like having a spouse for sex but I get so irritated when I have to live with somebody. I also come off as an a**hole.
I don't really expect any advice. I just needed to tell someone because this is eating me up. I am not suicidal or anything just really depressed. Thanks for reading

It means two things

1. They don't understand because due to a lack of training about Autism and awareness levels
2. It sounds like they are not worthy of you. If they can't accept you for who you are then that's their mess and not yours.

Sometimes I notice people with autism (myself included) let the label exacerbate the situation. Too often we may attribute our behaviors to our autism when in reality they may be fixable personality flaws. I'm not saying the issue you're having isn't completely tied to your autism but it's an angle you may want to try and look at your position with. It's true that you should act the way you want to and be the person you truly are but you have to keep in mind sometimes there is a consequence to this if you're not self-critical about things that actually are withing your power to change. A wise woman once told me,"Be 100% who you are but don't maintain a public nuisance and expect people to love you for it."

Always had that problem, I'm really bad in making friends.

I try to be my own person and really don't care what other people think. Be your own person and who cares what they think. True friends will come along.

It's important that you be a good dad to the kid, no matter your differences with the girl who is the kid's mother.

I have barely enough friends to count with one hands, and even then those friends are not very good ones (they are often busy a LOT, ignore me a lot, don't seem to want to talk, etc.)

So as a result I had to learn to be self sufficient because I know if I gotta count on a friend to do anything for me, they WILL let me down because normally they are not very serious about it.

Sometimes I'd trade anything to be a NT...

I feel you on others not taking the friendship seriously. People do this to me all the time. I wish everyone could just be honest and tell each other exactly how they feel and think but speaking your mind is taboo here.