Conversations with others as a couple

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Hi Everyone
I have been in a situation with my boyfriend chatting to other people and we where all getting tierd. He didn't pick on this at the time. We spoke later an he said yes he had realised everyone was tierd but didn't think about stopping talking.

I was wondering what would be a good thing to say in awkward situations to help ease or stop things without creating any embarrassment ? At the time I didn't do anything I just went along with it as I didn't want to make him feel bad. It doesn't bother me but feel as we meet new people it may cause problems. I want to be sensitive to his needs.One of his close friends has said to me he is intense with them and there is no off switch.

I recommend that you come up with a non-verbal signal to let him know he needs to quickly finish up what he is saying. Discuss it beforehand so you both can agree on what the signal is and what it means. Make it something that looks normal for two people in a relationship, perhaps putting your hand on his forearm or something like that. Nothing too large or obvious that would bring attention to it. This could be used when a conversation about a topic is going on too long, or when it is time to finish up talking so the party can end. It might take some getting used to, and it is dependent on your BF being willing to be advised in this way.

I give my husband a "look" that signals that I have about 15-20 minutes of sociability left in me and it's time to get ready to leave. He then starts the wrap-up, letting people know we have to start heading home.

Great idea didn't think of that. Yes will chat to him. We generally work things out together but just want to learn more from other peoples experience. Thanks

LOL...when my wife thinks I'm talking too much about "weird" subjects, she kicks me under the table (when we're in a restaurant).