I need some advice

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Yesterday, in my economics class, we were going to play some trivial pursuit as we had nothing better to do on a Friday afternoon. We were scheduled to play it at a certain time, and when I approached my teacher he said it wasn't quite time yet. However, I informed him that the clock was a few minutes slow so he agreed to start the game then. All of a sudden a girl in the back of the class said, " Oh yeah well acording to MY NAME schedule". When I turned around to ask her what she said she tensed up and replied, "Nothing." A friend of hers said she was making fun of me but I didn't pursue the issue any further. What was this all about?

Why would they mess with me?

Maybe she didn't want to play. Maybe she feels that you often manage to dominate class activities. One of the ways that I find to defuse such situations is through return humor; for example, I might say, "Well, the world DOES revolve around me, so that's only fair." Then again, HS students might not take this as well as adults do. I'd just figure that it is her problem.

Actually, ironically, Calendale, it's this girl that is the most talkative in class.

That makes the humor even sweeter.

There's one in every life situation; this unfathomable person who lashes out for no reason. By the way, is that you in your avatar?

I think I know the answer to this one, and it has to do with the time thing.
If you are like me, you are obsessed with the time being correct. Clocks that are inaccurate drive me crazy. I consider this one of my AS traits. So if the teacher said we were going to play a game at 2:47, when it was 2:47 I would expect the game to start. NT's may not be quite so clock-obsessed, the game could start at 1:59 and they'd be okay with it. This girl has picked up on you being "different" and was commenting on it in a snide way.

What does 'snide' mean?

if you get annoyed, just ignore her

That's what we call frustrated sarcasm. Trust me on this one. I'm an NT girl that's the master of snide, frustrated, acidic sarcasm

She's frustrated by something...something about you...perhaps the time accuracy. I've noticed this as an AS trait particularly in IRC, and it does actually annoy me after a while. We NTs aren't quite so punctual, and can find time punctuality to that degree like being held in a straightjacket

Actually, that remark sounds like something I'd say, word for word.

And I'd only say it if frustrated at that point in time. No offence to the person targeted either, it's a complex way of saying 'stfu' really. She meant no harm, no offence. We NTs can be quite secretive or elusive when it comes to venting frustrations. Yeah, making fun or someone can be a way of venting it...it's also a way of testing the water and seeing what everyone else thought. Had there been signs, eye-rolls etc from the rest of the class, know someone has been outnumbered...note carefully who the eyerolls are in reference to, you or the whining girl. Lol.

Essentially, try not to obsess about doing certain activities. They are for the teacher to decide. Interacting and controlling to heavily in this area will get you labelled as a teacher's pet, which leaves you WIDE open for ass-reaming from everyone else.

Been there done that. Yeah, an NT gal as a teacher's pet. It happens. Learned by the end of primary school to NOT GO THERE. Just chill and go with the flow.

And as far as time goes...unless you're in a clock-in clock-out industry, if you're needed for extra work by a few minutes and you want to walk out and go home because it's finishing time on the dot...expect to get whacked upside the head Time lee-way is a GOOD thing to a degree.