I don't want to be known or recognised. Plz forget me

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When I go shopping or go to to the bank sometimes the staff remember me or know my face and I really dont like it.

For example I was in the mobile shop to ask a question about my phone and the staff said something like 'I remember you came in last week'.

I always make some conversation back when people start chatting to me but I really wish they would just forget my face and not know me. I would like that if everyday could be as if I was a stranger to them. In my free time I don't really want to make chit chat as I have to do that as part of my job. I just want to run my errands and not be distracted. I don't want to be recognised it makes me uneasy

Does anyone else feel this way?

yeah, i feel the same way.
unless its a close friend ive known for a while, people remembering me really, really irks me. i really dont like people i dont care about recognising me.

This happens all the time, but the people who say they recognize you are only trying to be friendly and they don't realize that you don't like it.

Yes! I relate to this. I feel more comfortable in most face-to-face real life situations if I'm anonymous and people haven't started to acknowledge me or feel they're getting to know me.

Mostly because that leads to the societal pressure to have to chat. It's already happened in the park I go to, which happens to be frequented by many of the same local people. At first, I didn't know anyone there and I wanted it that way. I wanted to be alone with my thoughts, and with the wild birds.

Somehow people started to fold me into the "known" regulars there and now I can't ever go without someone there considering me an acquaintance and fair game for a conversation. I go there to get away from human conversation, not to get more of it.

These people actively go there TO meet up with the people they know there. I got dragged into that. It's ruined it a lot for me. I just wanted to be a stranger there because it was my place to just be in some nature and around animals.

One time I ordered a pizza and there was a problem with the order when it was delivered. I found out the poor delivery guy was being forced to eat the cost of that order even though it wasn't his fault it was messed up.

I felt bad for him and called the pizza chain's corporate office and bitched about the boss to customer service. The boss was forced to compensate the driver which made the driver very happy.

Unfortunately my wish to make things right made him ALSO think that I personally liked him and wanted to become friends? He tried to start greeting me warmly and start conversations whenever I ordered pizza again. I began ordering from a different pizza place just to avoid speaking to him. I gave up my favorite pizza due to friendliness.

Yes, I feel that way too.

Some people have likable or memorable looks and others have the opposite. It can have something to do with the way you dress, move, or otherwise present yourself, and it can just be your natural appearance.

People talk to me even when I don't want them to, I think because I have a very expressive face. My toddler has the same expressions on his face. I catch myself just watching his face for amusement, and now I get why people do that to me.

I have a good friend who is very forgettable. She's pretty, nice, polite, etc, and very interesting, but she looks like a background character on TV. People will say all kinds of things in front of her because they forget she's there. People we know will walk into a room, look her in the face, then walk away without recognizing her. I often envy that, but I know she finds it insulting.

Sometimes. The longer I've lived in a small town, the more it happens so I've adjusted. It's awkward when I don't recognize them.

At one time, a stranger claimed to recognize me, and his next words were to the effect of accusing me of some crime or anti-social behavior.

I told him to call the police. Someone else did, and the man ran off before the police got there.

I found out from the police that this is a lead-in to a con - that if you offer to pay off the person who 'recognized' you, that person will conveniently 'forget' you and move on to another victim.

This is one of the main reasons why I decided to move away from a small town to a larger city. I wanted a greater degree of anonymity, since almost everyone in my old town knew who I was and was convinced that I was their friend, when really, I didn't want to have anything to do with 90% of these people.

I don't have too much of a problem with being recognized, to be honest. I'm pretty much have become a freak that people avoid -- even if they sort of know me. There are a few acquaintances -- and friends in the very loosest sense -- that I enjoy talking to, occasionally. But mostly I feel like a phantom drifting through my town.

Autistic people find a place they like and will go there habitually, until the place goes out of business or changes the thing that they liked about it.

Autistic people tend to do things the same way over and over, same items purchased, same method of payment, same unconscious gestures, possibly even wear the same thing nearly every time they come in. They may buy things in pairs, sets, cases or otherwise unusual amounts to avoid running out of a favorite.

Autistic people have unconscious stims that feel perfectly normal to them, but look strikingly odd to the neurotypical people in the room. They may mutter to themselves, look uncomfortable at being in public, or react strangely to slight noises or movements that no one else notices.

And so on...how could people not recognize and remember us?