I can socialize but I hate it...

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I tried making an OkCupid account the other week, and it only lasted an hour. People messaged me right away based on my looks. I tried to make it clear I was looking mainly for online friends. But after a while of conversing, I began to feel annoyed and anxious, wishing to end the conversations and I had a major panic attack over it. I had made the account around seven pm, deleted it around eight. I thought about putting this in the l and d thread, but it didn't seem to fit much there.

Sadly that pretty much seems to be the case on dating sites. A lot of dudes see sex as the main ends to the means of dating, hence why they just seem to go after any girl they find attractive desperately and pretty much ignoring anything you might have written on your profile. It's really disappointing, seeing my own sex making morons of themselves. Honestly, I'd mostly avoid dating sites as they tend to suffer from that problem. Meetup.com is great for meeting people locally in a more friendly sorta way based on similar interests and such.

OkCupid is infamous for clueless horny guys sending you disgusting and exploitative messages treating you as a sex vending machine. Don't worry even many non-AS women find themselves quickly cancelling their account. It is truly horrible.

I can't add much on to what the other replies have said.

Yes, this is what OkCupid's like and I hear women get a lot of messages from creepy and anti-social men.

What they do is simply ignore most messages. This is my advice.
Not just OkCupid or dating sites but ANY website where someone sends you inappropriate messages or cyber bully in some way. Ignore, report and delete the messages, block the user, maybe even give them a 'f*ck off' before blocking them.

If you want to get creative, you send them a trojan horse virus or even hack them...

I hope all goes well for you and issues like this can be avoided.

Do not upload a photo, especially if you are only seeking friends. That will probably curb the unwanted attention.

In theory I am interested in dating as well but I would never date someone I met online. I wasn't being harassed and the people weren't really being all that rude. I think you guys didn't get that part down. I just simply couldn't tolerate anyone trying to communicate in general. I've had the same issue when I used to try and text people I went to school with or otherwise knew.

So you want to make friends but you're not comfortable communicating? Is communicating in-person ok?

O, I see.

Iknow the feeling. I don't even use WP's PM because I don't like it.

Well, I'm sorry but like the other poster said, if you want to communicate with people than it has to be done. If you don't want to do it than don't.

I definitely prefer real life communication as well - I have decent social skills, can read other people's emotions and all that. I just like a 'human touch'.

To be able to see someone elses smile, hear their laugh, etc.

Nothing can beat that.

Online communication is just words on a screen. Emoticons like " " or " " are ddecent, but they are not good substitutes for real, human emotions.

Or do you dislike even face-to-face/person-to-person communication?

If that is true than I don't know what you can do.

I don't like it either sometimes, I only talk to other people if I want to. I come across as 'shy' but I am not shy, just quiet. I almost always feel more comfortable talking to other's first than other's talking to me first.

I have trouble with real life communication as well unless it's a family member or someone I've known for years I want to meet new people in the world but my anxiety gets me in the way.

What about interest-driven friendships?

Or have you been there, done that?

Because communicating with other's based on interest can help.

It depends on what your interests are. I played sports at school. It was good fun and required minimal social effort.

But other things would obviously require more.