Annoying gossip trend with boy and girl friendships

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I've talked to this with my Dad a lot, but this is just something I decided to post to see what you guys and girls think.

Recently, I've become friends with a girl who is 2 years younger than me. I mostly view her as a normal and casual friend, but yet the kids in my end of the school think we're secretly dating (I think its because of the whole boy and girl being friends ends in relationship and married blah blah blah blah I don't really care for that cliche) or one of us have feelings for the other. AKA, they think we're romantically engaged. Honestly, it doesn't bother me much, but it does annoy me because it makes me question why teens at my age care about such trivial topics, and it honestly makes me laugh at times because of how they're making up rumors about people that reject/don't care for something like romance. Yes, I know the obvious ones like the pitiful hierarchy called social status, and the fact that most kids at my age are immature and all that.

As for myself, I never given much acknowledgement to relationships nor do I really want one, but I just want to ask you all what do you think.

If you are aware of the gossip, but it isn't necessarily a problem that affects your life too negatively, than I suggest just ignoring it and dealing with it.

I went to a VERY gossipy school were everything got around ridiculously quick.

Sometimes regardless of what you do you can be a victim of rumors and gossip.

I remember being asked if some random girl in a younger grade was my younger sister, I didn't even know this girl's name, but apparently someone said to the people who asked that they were my sister.

I mean, that's weird and random.

I'd just laugh at gossip/rumors really.

Watch and see how ridiculus they can get.

But tell me how much does it affect your friendship with this girl? If it is very serious and might even ruin your friendship than tell me how...

It doesn't affect me too much, though it does annoy me to some extent. I just wish it'd die down, because something tells me I'll start buying into it if I don't ignore it.

Hm in that case, I think its best to just politely deny it until it dies down.

*Gossipers are like bullies - they want to make you angry or sad or annoy you for their own pleasure.

Just deny it calmly and never show you don't like the gossip and they will eventually get bored and it will die down.
Or do your best to be assertive and ask them firmly and politely to stop. "What you're saying about me is NOT true, and I do not like what you are doing. Please do not speak about me behind my back like that, as it is very rude and inappropriate. If you don't cut it out, I'll have to do something about it."

*By "gossipers", I don't mean people who just talk about it. I mean the types that literally spend all their time just gossiping for their own enjoyment. The intense gossipers.

But I can understand why you dislike it, anyone would. It really can harm a good friendship when people are like that and try to make it out that the two of you like each other.