I have just lost my friend.

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Please, say something to comfort me. I lost my friend, she has just said she is overhelmed by me and feel too much responsible for me. So we should meet less often.

tomorrow is another day in paradise

your friend isn't completely lost, just less available. if you respect her need for space, perhaps your relationship will improve.

Although not what you asked for because this is advice and not comfort, I would advise you to listen to her and let her come to you.

I agree with the others. She hasn't said she isn't your friend any more. She said she needs to meet with you less often. Take her at her word for now. It will be very difficult to do that because you'll be anxious about the friendship. When you do meet, try to keep things light and fun. Maybe if she sees she won't be overwhelmed, she'll relax a bit and meet with you more eventually.

Back off and let her come to you 100% of the time

If she doesn't, it's over

Couple months ago I lost my best friend but it wasn't that she felt like she wanted to see less of me, it's that she never wanted to see me again, period. It was at that point that I remembered all these times I shook off when she wasn't exactly really a friend. When she left, I cried and cried and didn't really want to be alive anymore (I still don't but for different reasons). Though in the "end", even though I still miss her despite all her crap, I am still here somehow and it doesn't hurt like it once did.

As the saying goes: "this too shall pass".

I agree with the other people on advice: let her be. If she comes back great, if not that sucks. In the mean time I got through my loss by crying it all out and then working on a lot of projects which had their own headaches to keep me busy. Maybe you could try that. Just try to push through this initial phase. It gets easier.