Always Online = Loser?

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Would you think about rejecting someone for a friend, date, or romantic relationship because the person regularly spent a lot of time on the Internet for non-employment-related reasons?

Wouldn't this be as shallow as it gets? The epitome of shallow to the core, actually.

I don't think so. That is quite stereotypical thing to say. Lots of NTs as non-aspies also spend time being online too! What a difference that makes between us aspies and the non aspies? Absolutely nothing.

A lot of people spend too much time on line regardless of diagnosis.

I have cousins and sisters that are perpetually on Facebook posting and chatting via their phones and PCs.

Some days I spend a good amount of time online, though it's because I'm reading, updating my website, and/or just not in the mood to be social.

This thread isn't meant to be specific to people with Asperger's.

The point being, you aren't a loser if you spend a good amount of time online.

It really depends on what you are doing online...

Ok. Let's say someone spends six hours a day online, six days a week, playing games, posting on forums, and watching entertaining youtube videos.

Congratulations, you're an American under 35!! !

If not then you may need some help, if you are older than 35.

Have you tried getting out into the world and living life?

There's nothing wrong with spending a lot of time online, but if all you ever do with your life is sit around at home surfing the net, there is a problem.

If you have already tried years and years to work a job and failed.
If you have tried to go back to school to find other education opportunites and failed.

Than no there's nothing wrong with being online all the time.

You've given it all a shot and since it hasn't worked you've stopped. Nothing wrong with that.

I do suggest finding something to do outside of the house, like volunteer work maybe. Just something to occupy your time...

It was a hypothetical example. I wasn't describing myself.

No, I wouldn't reject someone for such a thing. I think it is pretty common among younger people.
As long as they aren't completely ignoring me for days at a time, it wouldn't be a problem.

That's pretty much me. Two hours in the morning, four at night.
Even when I'm not at my computer, I'm usually doing something online on my phone.

I agree with the previous poster about this being common currently. Really common. Although most people probably have no idea how much time they actually spend online (especially if they're using phones and other portable devices rather than a computer), and most people would probably severely underestimate the amount of time they spent online in the past week. To read it quantified that way makes me intuitively withdraw a little, but then I can quickly put it into perspective. I can remember shocking figures from the 90's about how many hours young people spent watching tv per week, and personally I don't watch an actual television at all now that streaming video exists.

So I wouldn't judge a person for internet usage alone; however, I have seen relationships go awry because one person felt like the other wasn't engaged with them, wouldn't go out and do things when asked, wouldn't help with children or housework when asked, etc. So I might be looking for signs about whether or not such a person was going to ignore me in favor of the internet, which would be a put off.

Well it's my opinion thenfor anyone.

If you spend all your time sitting around at home, on the computer or just playing video games or watching tv or anything else unproductive with your life, I think you need to try and get out and live life.

If you HAVE already tried/been trying, if you've faced so many job rejections over the years, if you had trouble getting back into education, whatever, then it's fine.

Trying and failing is better than failing to try.

Six hours a day online doing entertainment things seems like my life of dissipation during winter break.
I felt not so good and probably gained several pounds in two weeks.
My brain felt not so good too.
If a person works or goes to school, it seems like it would be hard to find six hours a day to devote to online entertainment.
I spend a lot of time on my computer, but when I am working, I hardly look at anything online.

You're not a loser, OP.

I hate to break it to you OP but you are indeed a LOSER. You are absolutely going nowhere with your life...

But it's okay because 80% of americans in their teens and 20s are losers as well. It's the norm to be a loser so you shouldn't feel too bad. I'm a loser too. Just because a ton of people are doing it doesn't mean they aren't losers. You know what im sayin? So go out there and don't be a loser!