I keep doing stupid things lately

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I feel so embarrassed about myself. People tell me to do something, and on a whim I say "nah, it's ok", and then I end up wishing I had listened and did what they said.

Like yesterday when I went into the office of the depot what my boyfriend works for, and it's a very small office, only about 4 people can move around in there. When we got to the door my boyfriend said "wait here while I do my paperwork", and I said "no, I'll come in with you", and just stepped in with him without thinking. I've been in there with him before, so now I felt free to come in with him without thinking. Then suddenly 3 of his colleagues appeared, eagerly waiting to do their paperwork after my boyfriend has finished with this machine they have to use to do their paperwork. I could tell I was a nuisance standing there, which then made me feel awkward. My boyfriend began feeling stressed, so he told me to stand outside. I then felt embarrassed. When I stood outside I started thinking "why didn't I just listen to him when he said to wait outside before we went in?"

I think it's because I get shy, and I like to stick with the person I know when I'm somewhere I don't normally go and with people I don't know.

Is this normal? How can I change this about myself?

I'm sure I read a reply to this yesterday...

Hey Joe,

What you "did" is not really a major thing. It happens to the best of us.

I don't think your boyfriend minded too much; he probably didn't even notice, actually.

I guess, next time, bring a book so you could read in the waiting room.

We all do things like this from time to time. The best thing to do is learn from these experiences and try again in the future. I'm sure you'll make a ton of mistakes in the future but that's the only way we learn. I wouldn't feel bad about it; embrace the fact that you are a work in progress; we all are.

Everyone has days like this where we feel we did something embarrassing. The best thing is to quickly apologize and go do what the person suggested in the first place. Dwelling on it too much will only make you feel more and more embarrassed so you should try to forgive and then distract yourself.

Like a poster here has said, I will learn from this mistake. The next time my boyfriend says to wait outside, I will wait outside. It's just that, when I very first went in there with him, I wanted to wait outside, because I felt awkward going in somewhere I have never been before. But he was all like ''come on, come in with me, it's OK! No-one will bite.'' And I said ''no, it's OK, I'l just wait here.'' Then a bit later he told me not to be so nervous, and have more confidence instead. I took his advice, and I have been working on it ever since. So then I felt confident going in the office bit with him without hesitating or acting shy, and then it was still a mistake because I ended up standing about awkwardly and being in the way. That was what I was afraid would happen the very first time I went there with him, which is why I waited outside.

Although my boyfriend is NT, one of his quirks is sometimes being unable to see things from other people's point of view. Like he knew the office was going to get a little busy that day - but I didn't. I didn't see anybody around, just like the first time we went in there, and I don't work there or know what goes on with the schedules and stuff, so I'm not to know when it will get busy and when it won't. If he'd said ''it's best you wait out here, it gets a little busy at this time of the week'', then I would have just waited there. But because he said ''wait there'' in a matter-of-fact way, as if he was just giving me a choice, I tried to be confident by going ''nah, I'll come in with you, I know it doesn't take very long!''
So just because he's been working there for about 4 or 5 years and knows exactly what goes on at what times and remembers most of his worker's shifts, he presumed I knew too. He thinks others can read his mind. It's not a bad thing about him. It's just the way he is.

um why did he drag you along to do his paperwork in the first place. I would be upset if someone dragged me to their work then told me to wait outside while they worked.

I get the sticking with person you know though. although people would tease , make fun of and trck me for it. because I would and probably still do keep 2-3 feet near them if they move I follow. yeah it does seem like nts want us to have confidence then get mad when try to

hugs.

We all do embarrassing things from time to time. Best not to stress and worry about it and just take it in stride.