messaged a couple of women on here.

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i only messaged some women on here, not all. how come i get no responses no more? what happened? its sad you know.

It might just be because they are being cautious. When they get a message they might not be sure what the senders intentions are.They also might not be sure how to respond to them.

I have tried to message women on here before. Sometimes they will talk to me, but they don't usually seem to show any romantic interest. Some will ignore me completely. I think some of them might just not be interested in romance.

How can you be so sure that they're not actually guys pretending to be girls ? You know... G.I.R.L.s OP.

how can you tell if guys are girls, or girls are guys. can you explain that? the internet can disguise and manipulate. that's the whole thing about internet activity. its a more go or no go.

Experience goes a long way in being able to separate the wheat from the chaff, the pure BS from the diamonds, the double-entendres of double-speak, the psychological-illusions of public-belief, etc.

I cannot always tell if a gendre is pretending to be the opposite, but from my experiences with real females versus the fake ones, the real ones don't cum as fast as the real ones (a real female on average requires an absolute minimum of 15 minutes worth of having her body pleasured before she can reach climax, and in some instances, some girls whom I've seduced actually require a literal five hours worth of hard action, and if you ever meet such a girl, she will probably want you to marry her).

You should NOT be "limiting" your interactions with females via an Internet-forums. You have MUCH BETTER chances playing on-line multi-player games that have a significant female-population due to being appealing to females due to having a lot of "cosmetic" options (and clothes) for their characters (but even in this case you should expect a good 60-70% or more of them to be G.I.R.L.s). I don't really know what kinds of games interest you, but I like the MMORPG-genres, and they also just so-happen to contain the parameters needed for significant percentages of female-gamers (many of who are still single & willing to get into relationships if you can capture their long-term interests).

Some of the "best methods" from my "experiences" of interacting with female-gamers on-line that could lead to potential relationships is to play games that are either semi-grindish and/or have these daily quests, ask your girl of interest to help you do a daily quest or grind every day, and if she is always willing to join you for your quests/dungeons/dailies/etc., each and every single day, I would say your chances are pretty damn good with that girl, enough that if the game has an in-game marriage-system, she would probably say yes to becoming your in-game wife, but whether your relationship develops past merely on-line interactions is another story & emotions at that point can be at stake for either party involved (but on the other hand I got a couple of gamers together some years back and we all literally met each other IRL and they actually ended up getting IRL married).

For the case where you are NOT into playing video-games (something that I would find highly unlikely amongst your demographics), I think your next best chances are to simply become publicly famous somehow, like creating a You-Tube channel and uploading a lot of "smile-inducing" content, you don't necessarily need it to be of your own talent, and also, you need to have "INTERESTING" content to talk about if you expect females on a forum to respond to you (content the WOMAN finds to be of interest) of which you can find more specific details after inquiring about whether they're a student or not, what classes they're taking if any, what work they do or why they chose their profession, whether that's the kind of career/job they really wanted or not, and what would they actually like to pursue/accomplish, etc. You could also just "swallow your pride" and go to a "church" function and ask a group to help you develop some social-skills after you're all done with that boring hymn-singing and what-not (I don't believe in religion by the way, and surprisingly, the friends I met at some churches I used to visit had their doubts, too, and I probably ended up converting them to atheism, although I think it's better to be an always-question-everything agnostic).

Anyway, you need to simply "refine" your approach, obviously you have an interest with interacting with females, but the ONLY reason you have a difficult time with it is due to your lack of experience, JUST like how a person who has never swam before in their life also cannot feel comfortable diving into the deep-end of a swimming pool as their first experience with handling the waters. Now I will leave something here that you may find of interest...

Feel free to use this video-link when contacting the women on these forums (or anywhere else for that matter) & asking them for their opinions on what they think about this girl's presentation. MOST girls are more-than-willing to help out a guy who is looking for help with something. I will also give you another tip:

A guy who KNOWS what needs to be done will be seen by girls as being very dominant and attractive, because he KNOWS (usually from experience) how to successfully complete a task, and such a man asking for help is NOT seen as a weakness.

A guy who is UNSURE of what needs to be done will be seen by girls as being very timid and not that much attractive, because he is UNSURE (usually from lack of experience) how to successfully complete a task, and such a man asking for help in such a timid manner is like asking her: Can you solve my problems for me ?

I don't really know how to explain it in vocabulary words as it's one of those things that would be easier to communicate through "psychic feelings" manner of communication, but basically, you can avoid the "unsure vibe" (I have to put "vibe" in quotes for various reasons) by at least KNOWING that you have a kind of "puzzle" to solve in regards to learning the working methods for getting the opposite gendre to have more than a mere fleeting interest in you. The last hint that I will give you: This is a lot like a chess-game, you have a variety of "openings" that you can try, but it's "check-mate" for you if you make too many blunders. Practice your openings first, then once you're comfortable with your openings, then try getting consistent with your follow-ups.

I also think that it's a good idea for guys to get their girls interested in doing cosplay, and for girls to do cosplay for their men, because cosplay allows the girl to take on the appearance of many different girls and, for a guy like me who has a ridiculously high over-drive for sex, a girl who is willing to cosplay as all of the sexiest video-game & animé-characters ever to come into existence is like me being able to have all of these different sexy girls for myself, and it's a plus for the girl because I'm still being exclusive to her, because most girls do NOT like it (and WILL leave you) if they ever find out that you are either having or interested in having sex with any other girls other than her. I find that cosplay is a very top-notch answer for a very long-lasting relationship.

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My advice is to actually go outside and interact with people irl. There's always dating sites to try, also.

Long-distance relationships are one hell of a burden financially and emotionally. Unsurprisingly, many sensible women are cautious about starting them--or of too-friendly strangers.

A lot of women in the L&D section have a bad opinion of Aspie guys.

I think it is perhaps more difficult PMing females on a site like this. Those with Autism have varying degrees of shyness, sociability, and so forth. I myself can move between outgoing and rather shy. One could potentially seem threatening even. Behave like a gentleman and do not make chauvinistic or ignorant comments. That being said, it can be hurtful if you contact somebody and they do not reply. I have known people who are slow to respond so maybe hearing back later is not out of the question. If you act like a complete creeper then it is your own fault, of course. I myself have not really made any friends, female or otherwise on here and that is a bit troubling. I actually get along better with females due to having a variety of quite feminine interests. Perhaps people will get back to you if you are more active here and they can gauge what you are like? I would say that if one is contacted by somebody then it is good to look over their posts and such. That way you can see if their benign message is in line with their activities at large.

If there is no real reason for the PM -- and you don't have much of a presence in the forums -- you will come off as a bit creepy, and women will be very leery of such approaches (as they should be).

Unless you have a reason to talk to them (like to ask about something they posted or to respond to a personal ad in the dating section), why would they respond? If you send them something interesting that is worth responding to, maybe they'll be more likely to engage?

Unsolicited messages can be startling, I agree. If somebody posts they are open to PM's then it makes sense to. Things in common such as a hobby, a passion, etc... is something to potentially discus with someone as well.

Completely agree with this.

But OP, some Aspie woman just aren't comfortable with these kinds of things... I wouldn't take it too personally, and like what some of the others have already stated, they might just find it rather odd and act cautiously.

As a female member on here, I would like to have a relationship of my own eventually, but I'd personally prefer it to be with someone that I've actually met face-to-face before.

Umm, maybe for some people WP isn't a dating site?

Unless I specifically post in the eligible odd-bods thread in L&D inviting romantically intentioned PM's, I don't accept them.

I think one is better served simply seeking friends. If you befriend somebody and it moves in that way naturally then that is great, but unsolicited wooing is off-putting to most.