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28 Jun 2015, 9:44 am

She told me she would text me by Saturday to see if she had to work on Monday. She never texted me and it always makes me sad. If I remind her, she apologizes and does it but that also makes me feel bad, like she doesn't really like me and only does it because I prompt her. She seems to act differently towards me because I am quiet. I would also like to talk to her more frequently but I don't know if she would think I am clingy or annoying.



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29 Jun 2015, 5:52 am

Some people are very forgetful. Perhaps that is all it is.

What is her reaction like when you remind her?



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29 Jun 2015, 2:09 pm

Your friend sounds unreliable. But like nerdygirl, I too also wonder how she reacts when you tell her.


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30 Jun 2015, 2:23 am

nerdygirl wrote:
Some people are very forgetful. Perhaps that is all it is.

What is her reaction like when you remind her?


She always apologizes but I still feel she doesn't really forget. According to how much she seems to like me when we are together in person, I would think that she would be really excited to text me. From what I know about her, she doesn't seem to have many friends but I know she considers me a friend. One time she asked me why I don't talk more and that made me start thinking that she doesn't really like me.



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30 Jun 2015, 5:27 am

Robben wrote:
nerdygirl wrote:
Some people are very forgetful. Perhaps that is all it is.

What is her reaction like when you remind her?


She always apologizes but I still feel she doesn't really forget. According to how much she seems to like me when we are together in person, I would think that she would be really excited to text me. From what I know about her, she doesn't seem to have many friends but I know she considers me a friend. One time she asked me why I don't talk more and that made me start thinking that she doesn't really like me.


How long have you been friends? How many times has she forgotten to text you about her schedule?



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30 Jun 2015, 9:58 pm

nerdygirl wrote:
Robben wrote:
nerdygirl wrote:
Some people are very forgetful. Perhaps that is all it is.

What is her reaction like when you remind her?


She always apologizes but I still feel she doesn't really forget. According to how much she seems to like me when we are together in person, I would think that she would be really excited to text me. From what I know about her, she doesn't seem to have many friends but I know she considers me a friend. One time she asked me why I don't talk more and that made me start thinking that she doesn't really like me.


How long have you been friends? How many times has she forgotten to text you about her schedule?


I met her a little over a year ago. This is the second time she forgot, the first time was the previous week.



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30 Jun 2015, 10:20 pm

Robben wrote:
nerdygirl wrote:
Robben wrote:
nerdygirl wrote:
Some people are very forgetful. Perhaps that is all it is.

What is her reaction like when you remind her?


She always apologizes but I still feel she doesn't really forget. According to how much she seems to like me when we are together in person, I would think that she would be really excited to text me. From what I know about her, she doesn't seem to have many friends but I know she considers me a friend. One time she asked me why I don't talk more and that made me start thinking that she doesn't really like me.


How long have you been friends? How many times has she forgotten to text you about her schedule?


I met her a little over a year ago. This is the second time she forgot, the first time was the previous week.


Was she in the habit of remembering before? Is anything going on in her life that could cause her to be stressed or distracted?



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30 Jun 2015, 11:48 pm

Hey Robben.

Maybe your friend isn't a texting sort of person and so, that's why she hasn't followed up with you as much as you had hoped. You could try asking her what method of communication she prefers (eg. email, phone call, text) and go from there.


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30 Jun 2015, 11:54 pm

nerdygirl wrote:
Robben wrote:
nerdygirl wrote:
Robben wrote:
nerdygirl wrote:
Some people are very forgetful. Perhaps that is all it is.

What is her reaction like when you remind her?


She always apologizes but I still feel she doesn't really forget. According to how much she seems to like me when we are together in person, I would think that she would be really excited to text me. From what I know about her, she doesn't seem to have many friends but I know she considers me a friend. One time she asked me why I don't talk more and that made me start thinking that she doesn't really like me.


How long have you been friends? How many times has she forgotten to text you about her schedule?


I met her a little over a year ago. This is the second time she forgot, the first time was the previous week.


Was she in the habit of remembering before? Is anything going on in her life that could cause her to be stressed or distracted?


There were only two times we had planned to do something together before this, and she remembered both times. The second time was just about two months ago. She doesn't seem stressed but she did recently break up with her boyfriend.



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01 Jul 2015, 4:27 am

Robben wrote:
nerdygirl wrote:
Robben wrote:
nerdygirl wrote:
Robben wrote:
nerdygirl wrote:
Some people are very forgetful. Perhaps that is all it is.

What is her reaction like when you remind her?


She always apologizes but I still feel she doesn't really forget. According to how much she seems to like me when we are together in person, I would think that she would be really excited to text me. From what I know about her, she doesn't seem to have many friends but I know she considers me a friend. One time she asked me why I don't talk more and that made me start thinking that she doesn't really like me.


How long have you been friends? How many times has she forgotten to text you about her schedule?


I met her a little over a year ago. This is the second time she forgot, the first time was the previous week.


Was she in the habit of remembering before? Is anything going on in her life that could cause her to be stressed or distracted?


There were only two times we had planned to do something together before this, and she remembered both times. The second time was just about two months ago. She doesn't seem stressed but she did recently break up with her boyfriend.


It could be she is preoccupied with figuring out life without her boyfriend. I'd give it some time to see what happens. Don't think the worst, and just be patient with her. She may have forgotten, but that doesn't mean that she doesn't like you. She could just be very self-absorbed right now dealing with the break-up. Time will tell what's going on.