Where Do You Fall Down?

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In terms of friendship, are you not able to make certain connections?

I seem to fail in picking up on who might be worth being friends with. Obviously I know if someone constantly asked me for money and never paid it back they wouldn't be worth knowing because they'd be just someone out to use me. I stay clear of people like that.

I also don't seem to initiate things much and sometimes I don't realise people won't know what I think unless I say it, duh. Even hanging around with people at uni I just don't seem to 'fit in' in some situations the way the others do, splitting into groups after lectures is awkward.

Fitting in.

Showing empathy for things I think are not worth showing empathy for.

When I tell my honest opinion, I am labelled as cruel, and mean.

Contributing to a group conversation.

There are many more, but I'll be here forever. Besides, those are the main ones.

Figuring out what is OK and not OK to say, like jokes or taboo subjects.

Figuring out when to stop talking and just leave a subject alone. I over talk a lot, get very verbose when I am nervous.

Figuring out if the person even wants me around to begin with.

I don't know how to hold a conversation.

And I'm not really interested in people that much,in reality.

-SpaceCase

When I stay calm and objective in an argument or other emotionally charged situation, I am seen as being cold and uncaring. I just don't see the sense in making emotionally based decisions.

I don't know how to end a conversation, and I can't keep one going for long... awkward combination.

Recognizing if a guy is actually interested I what I'm saying or if they just pretending because they want to sleep with me. It's almost always the latter. Pisses me off.

Comforting/consoling people who are upset. Again, seen as cold and uncaring.

Sending Thank You notes.... sooo awkward. What should I say beyond thank you for the whatnot? It always ends up being something painfully contrived...

When I tell my honest opinion, I am labelled as cruel, and mean. (ditto)

talking about subjects that are clean and appropriate.