This person wont stop harassing me online?

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This person didn't like my answer on another forum that I use.So he told me not to answer any of his threads in the future.I responded to him and told him that it was a public forum and I will answer any thread I want.

He made another thread few later and I answered it.He sent me a private messages demanding I stay off my threads etc.i told him to stop messaging me.He wouldn't stop so I reported him to the mod that he is sending me unwanted pms.He was given a warning.He didn't message me after that.

Then he made another thread and I commented on it again. He sent me another message to leave him alone. The thing is there is no block option to stop anyone from messaging you or answering your questions etc.I reported him again for sending me a private message after receiving a warning and his account was banned.

Now he has been making new accounts for the sole intent to harass me.He thinks I was the reason why he got banned .I reported him and they block his accounts but he keeps making new ones.

What should I do?Would you blame me for him getting banned?

Unless your replies to his posts are personally insulting to him, you have every right to continue your enjoyment of the forum. Ignore him. I wish that such prompt enforcement of forum rules existed at all online forums.

Well you could hire a hacker on the deep web to DDoS him.

Just ignore him. You have that option when dealing with online people much more than in real life. Once you start reading a post and realize it's from him stop reading it and go on to the next one. When he PM's you just delete them unread. It's not like in real life where you can still hear people talking to you when you are walking away. Totally ignore him. He can't do anything to you and if you ignore him he will eventually get bored and stop unless he's got some crazy obsessive mental disorder and in that case you'll just have to continue to ignore him.

People like that get off on you responding to him. Once you ignore him people will see that and they will see how he's keeping on and he will be the one that looks bad, not you. Also, so what if he PM's you. PM's don't open themselves and you aren't forced to read them. You also aren't forced to finish reading something you start, when you realize who it's from. Delete them unread. I've been harassed online a bunch of times and it's never bothered me because I can just ignore them and delete them. You don't have to have an ignore feature to ignore somebody. You just do it.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
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I second most of the advice above.

Ignore the idiot. He/she will find some other "victim," and will stop insulting you.

Once, some kid told me to "Stay out of Greenwich Village." Do you think I complied? Hell no!! !! !

Stop replying on his private messages, he should be tired soon.

On many forums sender can see if recipient had read his message or not - so don't even click on them, just delete as you get them. He will find out you don't read his messages and thus become discouraged

On the one hand, it's correct that it's a public forum and you are free to post responses to any thread and to anyone you want.

On the other hand, don't you think that it was egging him on to keep making replies on threads he created? Yes, you have every right to reply to his threads, and just because he said he didn't want you to, it isn't anything you have to comply with.

BUT.....the fact that you kept answering his threads seems like provocation to me. You're the one who started harassing him by doing that after he has asked you to just leave him alone and not reply to anything he posted.

It's not like he wanted you to just leave the entire forum -- he only asked you to avoid his particular threads so that the two of you just don't even have to deal with each other, since there is no blocking feature, you say.

Now it's all escalated and it didn't have to if you had just kept away from his individual threads he started.

I'm not taking sides, I'm just saying this has all escalated and he's mad now but only because it was you who didn't leave him alone in the first place.

Don't you think all of this would not have happened if you had just ignored him and any of his threads from that point? It would have turned out better if you had.

That would have nipped any further contact in the bud, since it seems it's initially all he asked and wanted.

I'm sorry dude, I don't mean to sound harsh, it just struck me when reading your original post how you said "Then hemade another thread and I commented on it again." and then the next one he made, etc.

You could have just not done that.

I'm sorry dude, I don't mean to sound harsh, it just struck me when reading your original post how you said "Then hemade another thread and I commented on it again." and then the next one he made, etc.

You could have just not done that. He's harassing you now but what you did seems like harassing too. You kind of starting the pattern.

Ignore him then he'll get bored of it and stop

I would have just stopped responding to his threads just to avoid trouble. I wouldn't say you brought this upon yourself because he clearly has mental issues. But sometimes we have to do what someone wants to avoid trouble because they are so disturbed. Think of a parent who lets their kids do whatever they want because their behavior problems are so severe they resort to attacks and violence and bullying behavior so the parent picks their battles and lets them do whatever like staying up late or cutting school or not doing their homework or keeping their room clean or doing therapy and let them suffer the natural consequences and let them fail and face prison because safety in their own home is more important than getting abused. But I am sure this would be hard for any parent to make this decision so they continue being a martyr.

I would say you did get him banned but it was his fault not yours because he did the behavior, you didn't. All you did was reported it because he was harassing you. Like OOM suggests, ignore him. I can understand how annoying it might be to have new PMs and not ever know if they are from someone else but I would just keep on ignoring him and hope he gets bored with it and will quit eventually. You can always have a moderator clean your inbox for you if possible by having them delete all his PMs from it. But I say if you don't mind the unwanted PMs, keep on responding to their threads.