Being Over-Excitable

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So a lot of my social awkwardness comes from being over-excited about things I really enjoy or are passionate about.

Just today I got excited about a potential activity, and made a few posts about it on social media. The activity is at a gym I belong to and was looking to gauge interest in the potential activity among its members, as I was really excited about it. One of the owners then private messaged me, saying "please don't post this sort of thing until you check with us first". I apologized profusely and deleted the post.

I immediately got a feeling of anxiety when the owner messaged me, as often happens when I do something socially wrong. Once that anxiety clears, I then start feeling really bad about myself, like I should have known better, but was too overpowered by my excitement.

Does this happen to anyone else? If so, how do you learn your way around it, and temper yourself so you can prevent something awkward from happening? I just get so excited about certain things so easily, because they're my passions, and the last thing I want is to feel bad about being passionate about something.

At least it's positive "overexcitability," rather than negative "overexcitability."

Sometimes, you just have to "think before you strike."

I'm like that sometimes, I get impulsive like that.

I'm 54, and I'm still a kid sometimes!

Hi bofhgirl,

I react similarly to what you have described. I get very excited about things I am passionate about, and I like to share my joy with others. I would have done the same thing you did, in response to the information you received about the "potential activities happening at your gym".

Like you, I get anxious when I am made aware that I have done or said something unacceptable. I will ruminate and/or shutdown for sometime, afterward. I have learned from experience, that there are certain people in my life, who I can allow myself to be 100% myself with, and, who will not squash me, or bring me down a notch (so-to-speak), or make me feel that my excitability is not acceptable in any way, but, I know this isn't the point of what you have expressed, necessarily.

In terms of the incident you experienced, I believe that, if there are reasons why people should not be allowed to pass information on, to others, then the information should not be provided to anyone, at all, to begin with, as there is no way to known that one must refrain from sharing the exciting news (logically speaking).

I personally, don't utilize social media, as it provoked intense anxiety in me, when I gave it a go. People are unpredictable, and I prefer to feel safe in my environment/with my emotions and reactions to things. I wasn't able to feel safe, good, happy or at peace, on the social website I experienced. I share my excitement, exclusively with those I know are safe to do so, with, and, who even, celebrate in my excitement with me. It is somewhat sad that we have to give our excitement/level of enthusiasm any thought, much less, go about it in that way, and, in real life, it can be virtually impossible for me to be conscious of, or control my excitement, as I react by jumping up and down repeatedly and verbalizing all of my happiness, but, I think the self-preservation aspect of doing so, on-line, or within other, unpredictable environments, is vital, at least it is for me, personally.

I have noticed that I have been able to be completely myself, here, on WP, so perhaps, you would find this a good social outlet to express yourself, fully, although, I do understand how impulsively it can happen, despite the fact that you might be in an unpredictable environment in that moment.

I hope you are feeling a bit better at this time - : )

I am feeling better, thank you!! I've come a long way in these 35 years, and now it doesn't take me so long to get over the anxiety of an incident. I think now it's just a matter of practicing thinking before I get overly excited outwardly. Eventually it will become habit, and I won't even have to think about it anymore.

I did that last year while preparing for the same convention that I happen to be at right now. I do a series of blogs on youtube and I happened to vlog about prepping for it. They have their own forums and I kept attempting to promote them there. I also got a PM saying that it was getting to the point of spam.

I also get overly excited about things when they are positive to the point that it drives others nuts. Just know that others around here can relate.

Turns out that the husband of the person I got into this little discussion with was on my side. Nice to know that excitement isn't always frowned upon! It made me feel loads better about the whole incident, and now I can be completely excited about it again.

That positive outcome is more common than people think.