An NT thing?

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Yesterday I was sitting alone at lunch, playing my DS, when I hear some girl ask what I'm playing. I look up, and sure enough, someone is standing there. I just confusedly answer "Mario", and she says some approving words, says that she likes Animal Crossing, and goes away and sits down with some other people at a nearby table. I kind of glanced over occasionally but I didn't pay much attention.

Was there some kind of benign motive here, or was I being subtly made fun of? Is it maybe just something normal that NTs do and I'm looking too deeply into it?

I don't think you were being made fun of. I think anyone interested in what you were playing would ask. If you see her again make it a point to say hi, you may have a new friend.

I'm not sure that I remember what she looks like... I may remember what one of her friends looks like, but I'm not good with faces unless I consciously see them often.

if she likes you/ wants to be friends, she will come out of the woodwork again

maybe people do stuff like that to make themselves look good for a group

"oh, there's johnny, he's ret*d and has no friends. i'm going to say, hi"

*walks over and says hi*

"wow, lisa, you're such a caring person"

"oh, i know. thank you, guys."

I do the exact same thing. Once I run out of things to say, I'll just say something like, "see you later" and go off with my friends. She was genuinly curious to see what you were playing, and since she listed what she likes as well and didn't diss Mario, she definitely was not teasing you.

Sometimes I say hi to people if they like something that I like. Not really because I'm interested in talking to the person, I'm more interested in talking about whatever it is that we both like.

Don't count on it. What we do in these situations is often seen as a snub. I can't really blame them - think about the effort that you would have had to go through to approach someone. I know that we think all NAS's are alike, and that they just make friends automatically, but I can assure you that it's not the case - most have to put effort in as well. I'd say that the ball's in your court; if you're like me, you'll just let it drop.

I think she was just trying to be friendly. Try not to read too much into it, NT's are confusing

I tend to believe that this is something normal, and we tend to look too deeply into it. For some reason, we seem to need a rational explanation for everyones behavior's, yet it appears that most behavior simply does not have any rational explanation. Thus the confusion. Its not that we don't get it, its that we don't get that not getting it is the solution to the problem, it is not an unsatisfactory answer. There is "nothing to get", period, which is the right answer, not an incomplete one. There are no answers, thus there are no questions. If we could only stop the need for the question, there would be no confusion at all.

I couldn't agree more, Grim.

I think JonathanK got it right: there simply is no explanation for some behavior, it just is. I don't believe there is a "normal" either, although I used to think so. Now I work for government where my mantra is 'don't try to make sense of it; it just is'.

The T in NT is 'typical'... there is no normal.

Recently I told an Aussie that as a child I just wanted to be 'ordinary' and was told that 'ordinary' means puny/not well in Aussie vernacular....

Eh, maybe she's a gamer as well? heck, If I saw someone playing, I'd ask what it was. I'm a curious person...

NTs confuse the heck out of me, especially NT females. Even my own mother confuses me with the many slants that she adds to her grammar. I liked it 25 years ago, when she actually used to make sense and she spoke to me, like an adult.

I think it's very simple: she likes you