What the f**k was I supposed to say?

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I was at school, waiting on a bench with nobody else on for time to pass.

Suddendly, a random group of girls take a seat right besides me even though theres plenty of space elsewhere. They were talking loud so I push myself away a bit. After that, one of the girls says "Look at him he's so rude!". Then they start talking to me. I don't say anything in fear of saying something ridiculous.

I just stare in emptiness like I always do when I'm thinking. Then, one of them says "Don't friends talk to eachother?" and some other BS. Sick of them, I walk away hearing their laughter in the background.

They are just bunch of b*****s. Ignore them better not to say anything IMO.

You're not always supposed to say or do something in particular. Sometimes it's fully expected that you simply can't win.

I agree with Spiderpig. Aspie or non-aspie, some situations are just lose-lose.

The only thing I would have done in that situation is assertively and calmly state:

"I'm sorry if I came across as rude, it's just I think you're all being quite noisy and just needed some distance so that I could hear myself think".

And if they have an issue with you even after you say that, well, just remember that you're 14 years old, and most teenagers are illogical.

Either way you didn't do anything wrong.

I would have also moved away but I also would have said the above sentence.

People have done this sort of thing to me. When I rode the bus last year, little seventh graders kept harassing me for no apparent reason. I never know what to do about it but ignore it (which encourages further harassment.) I'm an easy target, and people seem to pick up on that.

Yeah, I feel like there IQ is so low that hitting their heads on a brick wall wouldn't change anything. Better doing nothing against these apes with brains made of dog s**t.

Spiderpig and others are right, there was never meant to be any "correct" response, the whole point was to annoy you.

I would have probably walked away earlier. If I was still there for the "don't friends talk to each other?" line, I might have replied "who said I'm your friend?" And then walked off.

Of course if I was still high school age I would probably try to explain or justify myself somehow - don't do that, people like that will only see it as a sign of insecurity on your part, ie an invitation to harass you more.

@Daily

There's a chance one of them actually has a crush on you and this is how some children think flirting works. Give their crush a hard time as an expression of interest. Especially at your age. I had a girl do this to me when I was 13/14 in grade school, she used to make me feel so uncomfortable, I never caught on that she was actually into me. This could very well be the case in your situation, it's not often a pack of girls give a boy a hard time without some ulterior motive. It could be that they're just being mean to you though, that I really don't understand, I don't understand how the minds of the mindless work. It's up to you how you interpret the situation I guess. Food for thought

That reminds me of a situation I had happen to me about 7 years ago in the bus station. I was sitting on a bench waiting for my bus, when a group of teenage girls came near. There was room on the bench so 2 of them sat down but there was no more room for the third one unless I moved up. So, I moved up as casually as I could so that they wouldn't think I was moving up in a nasty way. I even smiled, as if to non-verbally say "here, you now have room to sit too". But they still took it the wrong way and the girl next to me sai to her friends, "I'm not that skanky! She just moved away from me." And they all went quiet. So that made it awkward.

If you’re an aspie, I wouldn’t be surprised if your smile was actually read as, “You’re so revolting to me it’s funny you could think for a second I’d put up with your company”.