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So I had this online friend who I met off of wp. And well this guy also claimed to be borderline personality disorder. I don't know anything about bpd. He was one of those self-diagnosed aspies who we weren't sure if he was aspie or not. I just recently unfriended him because I suspected he was being a tool and just making up story after story. Cause frankly, I realize some people are bored and just want to mess with someones head and make up over-dramatized stories that dont connect after a while. I dont know people in real life, anybody online can say just about anything. And Im aware that aspies can be manipulated easily. I realize, I coulda just been being an ass by unfriending him but whatever. I know that online, I can be an ass. So if some of you consider me an unconsiderate ass for unfriending him...so be it.

Has anybody had this happen to them before. The cautions of online friends.

You're not an ass for unfriending him if you just can't stand him, how good is that for you? But if you try to friend someone with BPD, you should expect to make some sort of compromise for it to work.

I've met people online for friends and romance, but none of the relationships lasted too long for me.

You had every right to do so because ultimately nobody is obligated to do anything for anyone. You have the absolute right to decide who and who you do not want to stay in touch with. Nobody has any right to burden you to do otherwise. And they often try to make others feel bad by playing the victim card.

I have been accused of making up stories by groups of bullies when I was actually telling the truth. The result is that people on the site believed the bullies and I was ostracised for something I never did.

None of those bullies knew me in real life, had they have done they would have known I was being honest. There were a few times I got confused and they accused me of contradicting myself but is not what was going on. They were attacking me left right and centre, my anxiety levels hit the roof and I was having trouble explaining what I was trying to say as a result. They then took my words and twisted them to mean something they did not.

It really hurt my feelings as I hate unfairness and misunderstandings. I will get highly stressed and keep trying to resolve them which makes me come across as obsessive or something. I then get angry when no one listens partly because I get accused of, and blamed for, things I have not done and it is unfair, and partly because I hate when people get their facts wrong about me.

I hate lying about myself or my life and will only ever lie out of need (ie to protect someone) not for attention or to manipulate people. I am not comfortable making up lies for those reasons, it feels very uncomfortable and wrong. I have no desire to manipulate people as I do not want to hurt them and I do not want attention as such as I do not like being the centre of attention in most ways, although a few friends for company now and then would be nice lol.

Be careful who you accuse of lying or making up stories though, they could either be confused or telling the truth.

It really hurts when people ostracise you for something you have not done. It really hurts, ya know?