How to cope with social anxiety?

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I can't be around people without alcohol to loosen me up.

I can be around my family of nearly 30yrs. FINE! and even busy places such as a theme park or mall "Bye I'm going to go to the souvenir shop or look at the Xmas stuff etc. BUT I KNOW I am with my family and we can always get back together before we leave I'm not OMG! actually ALONE! Or have to socialize with ANYONE! Outside of thanks for the purchase bye when I'm by myself that's the most socialization I get!

When I was at my sisters friend's baby shower I had to have wine

When my sister took me to meet a new friend (me and this guy Matt were going to a Zelda concert she knew the family so took me over there to get to know Matt before we went to the Zelda concert a few weeks later)

AGAIN alcohol

Mom's SURPRISE 50th Birthday party! I ran out meltdown crying TWICE! Then finally sat down to read a textbook on killers ( I was finishing my Criminal Justice degree so that helped PLUS ALCOHOL!) + Aspies don't like surprises didn't know of OMG! PARTY until that DAY so NO time to MENTALLY PLAN IT!

I need help to LEARN how to function WITHOUT ALCOHOL and TRUELY AWAY from my family?

Not sure is it I'll get lost?

I can follow signs and store signs just fine that point to X ride or X store section completely fine so I don't think it's a "get lost idea" The OMG! "Fear" of being alone and the unknown WHAT IF something happen to you angle??

I don't know what to do! How to cope with this! How to get over this! Please help!! ! Any good tips or websites or ANYTHING I can look into for help?

An anxiety pill 3x's a day = nausea so I moved it to 2x's and it barely worked 2 weeks back in Feb. now nothing. This was 6+ months ago I just never asked to change it yet. She upped it from 2 to 3 and still no great magnificent change.

Do I need a stronger pill?????

I don't want to rely on a pill OR yet alone alcohol to socially FUNCTION!

I cannot advise as my situation is different (I do not have family and am alone most of the time). However, re: the being outside alone and fear of being alone, then one thing I do is that I carry my mobile phone then, for example (this is an overly specific example) if I am in a secluded area and afraid I might be hurt then I would have my mobile phone in my hand always so then I can reassure myself that I can phone the police. I am still very anxious, but then at least I know I can phone the police so I am not truly alone if something happens. Now, what I am saying, for your situation, is perhaps that you could do the same but know that you can phone your family, in other situations. Because, if you have your mobile phone, then it is always possible for you to phone people, therefore you are not trul alone.

I find for socialising on one's own, then for me it is impossible apart from in structured situations. So, I like having a job because a job means I have structured socialising with my co-workers. There is also volunteering for that. I find it extremely difficult to socialise on my own in "recreational" contexts and do not have advice for this.

Regarding alcohol, then for me it is that alcohol is expensive and for me it makes me even more anxious (a very pronounced agitation which then results in insomnia) after the initial effects wear off, so that is why I would not drink alcohol any more. Perhaps you can find similar reasons to not drink alcohol, or to drink less alcohol. However, this might not be a helpful suggestion if you are very entrenched in your drinking habits.