Do you think I'm a loser?

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I'm so lonely, and I feel like it's because I'm a loser..... what do you guys think of me?

Hi there MonsterCrack,

I'm an old timer.

And people tend to avoid me. And while I sometimes lose, I've come to the conclusion that it's not because I'm a loser. It's because I'm different. And I value my freedom, creativity, and independence. And sometimes, I succeed. Sometimes, I'm a winner. And that can make people jealous or envious ... but with all that said?

Be the best version of yourself.

That would make you a winner in my book.

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thank you, the___phoenix...

You're very welcome!

hey there, i don't know you much, not many of us do so it'd be pretty weird if we thought you were a loser, don't you think? judging someone we haven't gotten to know yet? who the heck does that.

i'm gonna go by pheonix's word and say to be the best version of yourself.

i think you have something to offer here by being yourself. hope all goes well with that younger girl you were talking about in the other thread.

besides, what does loser even mean?

I think you are 16 years old, and struggling with a lot in your life. You have no idea what kind of person you will become ten or even twenty years from now.

From what I've seen from your posts, you are lonely and going through an identity crisis. A lot of people here can relate to that.

I wish you had someone in your life that understands you and that you understand.

It's hard to learn to be kind to others if nobody is being kind to you.

it does sound like you are having a bit of trouble figuring out who you are. it's common and not indicative of a loser.

i met one of my best friends here, others have as well, it may be worth it trying to mingle with some others and finding one with a common interest? just a thought.

I just wanted to comment on this - the OP has had some bad experiences in PPR, which is populated by a lot of people with strong opinions and a lot more experience and education than the OP. I don't think PPR is the best place to socialize.

I'm sorry for being rough on you the first time, OP, at the time I'd just joined WP and hadn't figured out how to read people's age. I gave you adult treatment at the time.

Do you have some other interests, such as for example gaming? Often, we are minorities in some areas but belong to the majority in others.

ah, i don't recommend anyone go and socialize in PPR. i've been gone for three months so i'm likely missing a few things.

No one's a loser unless they themselves think that they are. You might be interested in virtue ethics, mc. It's quite an fascinating philosophy.

Do you want my honest opinion?

OP: if you start to accept that other people with inevitably have different opinions to yours, and stop getting angry at people who have different opinions, I think you'll make more friends.

You also should try to listen to other people who are trying to offer you advice. Sit down, count to ten, read the advice--instead of assuming that people offering advice are trying to screw you in some way.

Great advice, Kraftie!
It took me a long time to learn that my opinions could be seen as wrong in the eyes of others.

It should be remembered that different opinions are based on different life experiences.

I think the OP is a bright guy. He will go far if he is able to CONVERSE with people, rather than DICTATE to people. I had to learn that, too, in the course of my life.

Clearly he or she does.

MonsterCrack

For some reason your question really resonated with me. I could very well be asking the same question.
I have a great family and a good job and I still feel lonely and feel like I am a loser.
I have a lot of emotional swings, especially when I am overtires and stressed. My wife has helped me to realize when I am doing this and I try not to take rely too much on my feelings when I realize I am in one of those funks. But it does help incredibly to talk or type to someone and tell them your troubles, so keep it up.
If yo uare lonely because you feel like you dont have enough close friends, then I hope that you are able to make more close friends or find the right special person, but be careful. It has been my experience that I wanted to be more popular, but being popular involves meeting people and interacting with them, and I dont like that. So I try to be balances, I do things that make me uncomfortable, like making friends at church, but I realize my limitations and I dont try to be best buddies with everyone, I just am the guy who occasionally has a short friendly conversation, but mostly just hang out with my family.
Give yourself time, find out who you are and how you bestrelate to others. Find people who can support you, but dont count heads or worry if you dont have as many friends as you think you should or if your friendships arent as deep as other people you see around you. Just be yourself.