Dealing with Autistic issues and friends

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Like many people I have interests, but they keep getting me into trouble.

As a specific example, I support local sports teams, and it seems it matters more to me than other people even those who support them.

They do not know I have Aspergers, and to be honest i have no real intention of telling them.

however is there a way of saying that sometimes I may want to talk about it and other times not.

Perhaps I could even mention that I get passionate and that sometimes it is better to not mention it. Other people as well have kids and that completely changers your mind set on what is important and not a silly game.

The thing I don't want to lose friends and don't want people to think I am being awkward or blunt with them.

Do other people have strategies with dealing with such issues.

I have had a similar problem. Sometimes I will talk non-stop about something with people who do not care in the way that I do, and not notice that I am going "overboard". Then, the same person may deliberately prompt me with that subject at a different time and I will feel so depressed that they have done that as then I have to start talking about it as they have prompted me. I do not know if that is exactly relevant.

I think that you could raise this non-awkwardly, if you said to the person(s) or wrote to them a statement similar to, "I would prefer if sometimes you did not raise the subject of the local sports teams, as I can get a little obsessive" or "as I can go a little overboard with it". You do not have to use the word "obsessive", that is just the word I have used recently to describe my behaviour to others. I usually put it in " " marks. You will notice that the phrasing I have used is a little self-deprecating. I cannot think of a neutral way to put it. I would use these words as they communicate to the other person why you do not want to talk about this subject sometimes. You have used the word passionate. I have not used this word in this context so I do not know. In any case, whichever word or phrase you use, I think it is fine to state or write this. It will make you feel better as, for me, I know that having a sort of "trigger subject" is not pleasant in social interaction when I know that other people do not understand my enthusiasm.

I think you will not be perceived as awkward or blunt for stating this.