Contacting friends from when I was a kid?

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In the past, I've tried contacting childhood sweethearts who live far away, since I've felt my friendships in my city weren't working.... i tried writing a letter to my first crush, but turns out she had moved... so I found her dad's number, and called him, asking him if I could talk to his daughter (keep in mind he is a very religious, strict man) and each time he made up some excuse, but eventually, he said, "why do you want to talk to her anyway?!" and refused....
so i tried contacting her on grooveshark and facebook (her facebook didn't have a photo, but i searched her name on google images and it led me to her profile) but they didn't work (grooveshark was shut down, and she never replied anyway) and I also was hoping she would show up at the Gandhi-King-Ikeda peace award ceremony, where the award was being given to the head of our religious order (M. Fethullah Gulen, leader of the Gulen movement) but she never showed up... I eventually gave up.... I tried sending a letter to a girl in southern georgia... i tried contacting her through her parents on facebook, but that didn't work... she didn't have a facebook.... i tried contacting another girl from the same time period as the first girl, but my mom forbade me from writing her a letter, and facebook didn't work because things just didn't work out, and I didn't care much for her anyway...... i also tried contacting my friend who used to live here in atlanta and was friends with me back in the 5th and 6th grade, a long time ago, but she deleted her google plus and didn't have a facebook..... i saw her at a wedding, but she didn't wanna talk to me (her mom said she doesn't talk to boys)... i tried calling her, but her mom hung up on me.... has anyone tried this before?

I know what you mean. I get urges to contact old friends myself.

But I don't do it--because it's in the past--and you must live in the present.

Just live in the present and future--that's the best way to be, in my opinion.

^Sounds like good advice!
I've never had a childhood sweetheart before.

Sounds like you're going about looking people up in the right way... if they don't want to talk to you, I don't suppose there's much you can do about that...

I see you're 16 years old, which means, as you've found out, parental interference can be an issue when trying to contact/hang out with an old friend, especially an old crush. Try again in a couple years too, if you still have any interest in talking to these people.

It's weird how people you haven't spoken to in years come out of the woodwork after high school. I'm 24... I was contacted on Facebook by a girl I'd known in 4th grade (and hadn't spoken to since) a couple weeks ago, and we made plans to go out for drinks when I go back to my hometown for Thanksgiving. On the other hand, I have no idea what most of my best friends from high school are doing or where most of them even live now. One of them went off to a big state college, turned into a Red-Bull-guzzling, frat bro jackass, and told me I was a f*****g loser for not being like him. Last I knew he was an overweight, semi-alcoholic college dropout stocking shelves overnight at Walmart. C'est la vie.

My point is... people change, life circumstances can get in the way, and if a friendship ever really meant anything to begin with, somebody will find a way to make it work. Until then, sounds to me like you're doing the right thing but just hitting a bunch of dead ends.