Why do I kill forum threads so often?

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It seems like every time I make an insightful post or ask a question on an online forum thread (including WP), no one responds, and the thread is left to die for a prolonged period of time. Why is this? Be honest.

Similarly, sometimes my posts get completely trampled over and I have to reiterate points I've made after people reply to me without fully reading my posts. I try not to write utter textwalls, although admittedly I have done it before.

So am'I.

Yet I do not mind, it's not just in WP, but at *all* forums I've been into. Chats too, usually left no replies and still.
If anything, I sort of expected it.

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Lose more time here - Updates at least once a week.

I think it's nothing personal, just that there are so many forum posts each day and some get missed. Also people may not know how to reply although they are interested in the topic.

You want the honest answer? Are you sure? I know this is not going to make me popular but here goes.....

Basically, because you flat out said you don't want to hear anyone's advice and were recently rather rude and condescending to SocofAutism, one of the best and most helpful posters here IMO. I've also found that you don't really have much I can comment on directly anyway as I don't do drugs or alcohol and rarely play video games anymore.

I also gotta be honest and say you come across as a whiner who sounds like an "emo" teenager with a victim mentality. For example, you get more in disability than many people get working full time where I live and instead of thanking your lucky stars acted like it was unfair you received so little. You know how much my mom gets with a severe disability? $0.00/month and she is in FAR worse shape than you. I know enough people like this in real life including my ex GF. She whined constantly about being poor, a**hole bosses and landlords, not having a job and how worried she was about failing school. She never once did anything about it or take any of my advice or hard work (such as setting up tutoring, offering groups to help with public speaking, setting up a counselor at great personal expense. Of course, she NEVER took responsibility for herself and it was ALWAYS someone else's fault. No doubt she is still telling everyone about what a "jerk" I was and how "abusive" I was to her but I digress.

Maybe I am wrong about you, but I really don't want to communicate with something with that attitude again.
I know how depression feels and how misunderstood it can be but I still have to resist getting angry when I read some of your rantings. Sure life dealt us a s&$tty hand but I still have to fight through it and drive into work every morning.

It's not that I dislike you per se, but I don't like what I see from your internet persona. You are probably a decent guy and we may or may not get along in real life, but that's not what we are talking about.

I obviously can't get in your head, but I have to respectfully disagree about not understanding how you feel, at least compared to 99% of the population. I actually went to seek help because of my fiery temper and the counselor told me that I have rather severe depression. I objected for a long time because I am not "sad" but later came to accept this and later found it in runs on both sides of the family. I've also been in situations in my life (the first at 20, the second at 31) where I was literally too depressed to consider killing myself. I would not wish that on ANYONE and I can't imagine it getting much worse than that. Still, I soldiered on and went to work, knowing that sitting at home would only makes things worse.

I would rather not say where I live in Canada but the reason she gets nothing is because when she was injured in a car accident, she was not working. If she had to have been, she would have gotten compensation for it but instead we got a joke of a settlement that even welfare recipients get more in one year. As well, married people aren't entitled to disability of any kind in most of the country: another way society s***s on Mothers but I digress again. Thanks for the kind words: unfortunately she will never get better as she also has an extremely rare genetic disease that can't be treated.

I certainly hate the people who say "snap out of it" or "just think happy thoughts" or the worst of all "it's all in your attitude" without offering any positive, workable solutions. If you were to ask for ways to get off disability, how to learn to drive (my brother was 26 before he finally got his license) or how to make friends I would probably be very interested in replying to your posts.

I'm not trying to run you down or say you have no right to be depressed but you really need to take a long look in the mirror and take positive steps in the right direction. If you want people to respond for example you need to actually ask questions or contribute in a way that I or someone else can build upon. You honestly remind me a lot of RetroGamer87: very frustrating at times but I still see a ton of potential in. Hopefully you can live up to that potential and get rid of that chip.

I can relate to the whole "afraid of success" thing. You are preaching to the choir.

Here are the types of posts that I don't respond to ordered by how frequently I encounter them (from most to least).

1) Posts that are just not interesting to me.

2) Posts that I strongly disagree with, but don't have the energy or ability to fully articulate how.

3) Posts that I strongly agree with and are so well written that I just don't feel like I have anything more to contribute to the conversation.

Since this is not really a General Autism Discussion topic, and the OP is interested in discussing the social aspect of posting, moved to Social Skills and Making Friends.