What should I know about befriending kids?

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I'm 16, and a guy, and that 17 year old girl thea's parents severed their ties to me for beating up my brother when he disrespected my mother by verbally abusing her. So I'm not friends with her anymore. I also have no friends at my alternative school, because Daniel, the 18 year old with asperger's, left to go to another school. I also gave up on the 12 year old because i haven't seen her in a long time. i met a 19 year old, but i gave up on her, too. I've been trying to be friends with an 11 year old girl and her friends... the 11 year old girl once came over to my house with her mom and hung out with me, and she goes to my turkish center, and that's how I know her.... her friend asked, "why do you always try to hang out with her?" i told her i only have 3 classmates in my alternative school, and they're not very nice, and that i dont have any friends and so i get lonely.... i told her esma once came over to my house, so I thought i had a chance with her... i had her relay a message from me to esma, saying i wanted to be friends with her, and im waiting for a response... in case she didn't tell esma, i wrote a note thanking her for being nice to me and asking her to be friends.... what should I know about this, such as how not to cause suspicion, etc. and is the note thing appropriate? what about having her friend relay a message for me?

You may not want to be friends with a small child..you're 16 so you're close to graudating why not talk to people on here instead?

just saying because you don't want to be accused of anything being around a little girl and you being 16.

I agree with Sabrina. This would be questionable.

You risk arrest by being friendly with kids. Any time there is an older man having a 'relationship' with a girl-child, that smacks of paedophilia, especially to the police ...

Don't do it.

Just chill out...and you'll make more friends.

People don't like hanging with people who they think might explode in anger.

what led to you giving up on the 19 year old?

you could probably try and see if you can be friendly with the girl's parents as well, to be safer.

who says I have anger issues?

In truth, it is a little creepy.

Why would you want to befriend people who are younger than you anyways? I don't get it as I have always preferred to befriend people who were older than me when I was growing up.

Even now, I like to have conversations with mature people.

Because I HAVE NO CHOICE!! ! I only have 3 classmates in my alternative school, all of whom are screwy.... the girls my age at my mosque hate me... and ive tried talking to the guys my age at my mosque but it doesn't work... nothing happens... and many are either phonies or hate me....

Besides, I feel I can relate to children better because they're more upfront and they aren't complete phonies...

If you find that you can be friends primarily with her parents (genuinely, not faking it) and secondarily with the girl, it would make it far easier for you to develop a friendship with her. If not, then you should only chat her up when you casually run into her in a public place. Also, she seems too young for you to seek her out on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc.

Especially considering that in another thread he discusses wanting to watch an erotic movie called "Little Girls".

the actresses in that movie were all consenting adults... and I've already decided not to watch porn any more due to religious reasons....

When was this decision made? After all, you posted the thread titled How do I convince my mom to let me buy this movie? yesterday evening. If you have decided to not watch porn any more then you must have made this decision sometime since last night since last night you wanted to watch a porn movie about Little Girls.

However, strictly speaking porn and erotica are not strictly the same thing.

whatever, porn, erotica, I've decided to stop watching ALL of it..... and yes, I made this decision last night.