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14 Nov 2015, 8:07 pm

I'm 16... you all are familiar with Esma, the 11 year old girl I've been trying to be friends with.... her friend was supposed to ask her for me, but in case she didn't, i wrote a little note thanking her for hanging out with me that one time last year and also for being nice to me, and asking her myself... should I do that, ask her in person, or just wait for her friend to ask her?



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14 Nov 2015, 8:18 pm

I think that you should ask her parents first.


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14 Nov 2015, 8:44 pm

her parents are okay with it.



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14 Nov 2015, 9:01 pm

Hmmmm. Friendships of unequal age and power between adolescent boys and minor females are not a good idea full stop. It's not about how you go about it. If the parents are not going to supervise these encounters with you, then drop the whole idea, fast.



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14 Nov 2015, 9:41 pm

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Hmmmm. Friendships of unequal age and power between adolescent boys and minor females are not a good idea full stop. It's not about how you go about it. If the parents are not going to supervise these encounters with you, then drop the whole idea, fast.
they are superVising it... I know better than to be alone with a child



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15 Nov 2015, 9:06 am

MonsterCrack wrote:
her parents are okay with it.

Still, I find it questionable, regardless what her parents think.



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15 Nov 2015, 9:25 am

Why do you want to be friends with such a young girl? You are 16. She's only 11. Find friends your age or slightly older. I'm sorry, but your behavior is a bit creepy. What do you plan on doing with her? Play with Barbies together? Seriously, what does a 16 year old young man have in common with an 11 year old girl? Even if her parents are supervising you so much could go wrong. Bad idea. Where are your parents?



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15 Nov 2015, 9:35 am

i can not understand how you could be romantically interested in an 11 year old.
it is probably better to not nourish that interest



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15 Nov 2015, 9:37 am

I saw this thread under 'Active Discussions' as soon as I saw the last 5 words, I knew who the OP was.


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15 Nov 2015, 11:29 am

b9 wrote:
i can not understand how you could be romantically interested in an 11 year old.
it is probably better to not nourish that interest
i am not romantically interested.



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15 Nov 2015, 11:36 am

Dreamsea wrote:
Why do you want to be friends with such a young girl? You are 16. She's only 11. Find friends your age or slightly older. I'm sorry, but your behavior is a bit creepy. What do you plan on doing with her? Play with Barbies together? Seriously, what does a 16 year old young man have in common with an 11 year old girl? Even if her parents are supervising you so much could go wrong. Bad idea. Where are your parents?

Being friends with people my own age is not an option... I go to alternative school with only 3 other boys, and they are all screwy....



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15 Nov 2015, 11:37 am

MonsterCrack wrote:
Dreamsea wrote:
Why do you want to be friends with such a young girl? You are 16. She's only 11. Find friends your age or slightly older. I'm sorry, but your behavior is a bit creepy. What do you plan on doing with her? Play with Barbies together? Seriously, what does a 16 year old young man have in common with an 11 year old girl? Even if her parents are supervising you so much could go wrong. Bad idea. Where are your parents?

Being friends with people my own age is not an option... I go to alternative school with only 3 other boys, and they are all screwy....
also, guys my own age at my Turkish cultural center where I see these young girls, don't like me, and I don't like them.... I've tried talking to them, but nothing happens...



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15 Nov 2015, 11:53 am

Do you do any other social things, apart from the cultural centre and school?



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15 Nov 2015, 11:53 am

There are other places to socialize.

Try a club/program where you can meet like-minded individuals your own age. Like a book-club or something along those lines. I am currently going to something called the PEERS program, it is recommended for individuals with ADHD, Asperger's or high functioning autism.

Maybe you should try it. You may enjoy it and make new friends. There is a reasonable chance that some people in that program may want to meet friends as well.

Of course, do what you like. If you'd prefer to be friends with young girls, you could do that. I'm just trying to give you advice.


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15 Nov 2015, 11:53 am

neilson_wheels wrote:
Do you do any other social things, apart from the cultural centre and school?
I'm going to get a job soon, but I don't have a driver's license or permit...



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15 Nov 2015, 11:56 am

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There are other places to socialize.

Try a club/program where you can meet like-minded individuals your own age. Like a book-club or something along those lines. I am currently going to something called the PEERS program, it is recommended for individuals with ADHD, Asperger's or high functioning autism.

Maybe you should try it. You may enjoy it and make new friends. There is a reasonable chance that some people in that program may want to meet friends as well.

Of course, do what you like. If you'd prefer to be friends with young girls, you could do that. I'm just trying to give you advice.

I've tried asking my mom to take me to those places before, since I don't have a driver's license, but she never does..... I've asked her over, and over, but she CONSTANTLY forgets, and breaks her promises.... I guess I'll just apply for a job at the Publix near my house...