How to make friends

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Talk with someone, listen what he says, ask questions, people love talking about themselves and their interests, we all do. You will eventually figure out they share at least one interest with you. Then you can start talking about it and the person will love it. If you don't share interests, investigate about the other person's interests (he already revealed them during the talk), then you will be able to talk about it with him.

Warning: Let the other person talk more than you, try to just ask and answer questions without extra details (if they want to know more, they will ask) or you will look like a human radio and annoy them, it happened to me already.

You won't find someone who shares all your interests, but you can talk with many different people, each will have one of your interests. You just have to find out which interest belongs to which person.

That is how I talk about my interests without annoying people.

That is how I make friends.

I learned it by critics and reading books about emotional intelligence.

Yep...I agree.

It's a good start, but in the end is useless until you figure out which people are worth befriending and which ones aren't.

I never had problems making friends, but more with keeping them. Some even ended up stabbing me in the back.

Your tips are good, but what I also do is cherrypick the ones that are actually worth befriending.
A friend is of no use if it's there only for as long as your usefullness lasts to it.

Pick people who are like yourself, age and sex is of much lesser importance here though I'll admit the people who ended up staying the lonest are the people who are of roughly similar age (±10 years), but those are the ones that will be staying.

All are worth befriending. Contacts are very helpful. The most boring person you met may be the one that gives you access to the most interesting job. Just be careful and avoid doing anything you believe it is wrong, no matter who asks you. That way no one will be able to manipulate you. Be loyal to yourself.