Why won't my coworkers add me on Facebook?

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I started a new job 2 weeks ago and do have a handful of friends from work on Facebook. However, alot more than not won't accept me and I feel very insulted. Those same people have added some other new employees that started with me. Why are these guys being such jerks and not adding me, but adding those other new people on top of everyone else from work? They hardly even know them, so why will they add them and not me? It really saddens me and makes me angry.

For many people, myself included, there needs to be a line between work and pleasure. My coworkers are nice people but I would never friend them on Facebook. Facebook is not a place for professionalism and that is what is needed for work.

Because they don't know you too well and don't want you to see their posts? They'd hardly qualify as 'jerks'...

I NEVER ever add coworkers on my real Facebook page. Doesn't matter how much I like you, or how much I enjoy working with you.

Seen too many people funnel stuff back to the boss, or use information to their advantage.

That being said. I have two Facebook pages. One with my "real name", so people that get cranky, "Why don't you add me on your Facebook page" get put on. Those are the parents from my kid's school, co workers, relatives I'm not close to. This is used mostly for updates for meetings etc.

My real Facebook page has my close friends, a sibling, people from my numerous special interest.

So, I'd add you to my Sunday Parlor, G rated page. Once I quit jobs, and I've known the co worker for years, they'll be add to the other page.

It's not personal. I keep work truly separate.

Sorry duplicate

lol, Maybe they want to make working around you very awkward, meaning they still see you almost everyday after rejecting on FB.

By the way, did they mention the FB rejection after seeing you shortly afterwards in person, or did they just pretend like it never happened?

I know how painful it can be not to have co-workers do the same thing with you that they do with other co-workers. I had that happen with me about 4 years ago. Although they added me on facebook they refused to come to a house warming party that I invited them too. Not only that the owner of the company did not get me a card or anything. Yet she got things for everyone else.

As far as facebook goes, just think of it as a blessing in disguise. Sometimes co-workers like to gossip about by getting into your personal life. Then some of them can turn quite nasty on facebook and open the door to cyberbullying. Just be careful

I can't wait until Facebook quietly shuffles off to a corner of the Internet and dies.

Trust me, you're really not missing much. Chances are, those people are only posting nonsense about what they had for breakfast or their daily selfie. If anything, they did you a favor.

Don't take the rejection too personally, maybe they will add you in the future once they get to know you better.

I just use facebook to talk to a friend in PM and promote my youtube blogs.

I think, maybe that Facebook is a bit much, since they hardly know you, and you know how many people post everything. So, it;s like you see everything (not literally everything) about a person, instead of talking to them and learning to old fashion way. You see, when we are exposed to all of their opinions and stuff, without really knowing them, it's a bit much, and we tend to judge.

I was thinking about this girl I met last week, and if we became friends, and about sending her a friend request, or if she friended me. I thought for a bit, and thought that I would prefer not to be Facebook friends, and get to know each other in person. I'm glad that thought came, becuase I can see from a different perspective.

Just maybe that's why, some people won't add people they don't know.

A girl added me a couple weeks ago, and an hour later, she removed me. I was insulted and thought she was mean. I now realize, that I have visble likes on different topics, such as Naturism, bullies, some related to negative, such as bullies, Autism related stuff, too. So, she may see all that, and not know what to think. I'm sure if some girl just browsed through my likes, groups, etc, without knowing me, she may not know what to think, and come to the conclusion, that I'm a creep, or a weirdo.

The media has used the word Autism and Asperger's, a few times, so some people are unsure about it. When they hear about it, they remember what they heard abut on the news. I had a girl thought that I was going to become a mad gunman, becuase I have problems finding someone. Where I live, many people are very judgemental, and they believe it without any facts to back it up. I also find that, it's not just where I live, but news posting, Facebook, reviews, so many negative an awful comments. It has gotten to the point, that I don't read them anymore. People just love to spread hate. I do love when I see someone stand up, and show them.

There have been countless people who have judged me, just on Autism alone. One time on POF, I mentioned that I had Autism in my profile and whe I messages a girl, she claimed that all I do and sit around and play video games, which isn't true. I wish I ahve taken a screenshot of that. She may have seen Zelda, listed as one of my many interests, and came to the conclusion Autism+Zelda, he's a lazy gamer. I blocked that the piece of crap. I don't have Autism at all on my profile, but on Facebook, I do have an Autism profile picture. At least you get to see who is real or who isn't. The Autism photo, lets them know right away, and let's me know who is judgemental, and who is, for the most part.

You shouldn't take it personally, if its on social media. I've had countless people add me, and then unfriend me a few months later for no reason at all. Mostly people in my school who I barely even talk to anyways, so I wasn't too bothered by that. Most of your existing Facebook 'friends' are probably not actually your friends in real life anyways. I know that rejection is not the best feeling in the world, but it happens to all of us. I think you need to move on.

Well they simply does not love you and don't want you in their 'inner circle'.

maybe they didn't see the requests? Seems a little premature to jump to conclusions over something so trivial.