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Kitty4670
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07 Apr 2016, 8:39 pm

I want to be friends with this woman who works at the coffee house, we been friendly & talking to each other, I think she only wants to see me at the coffee house. I wish we could talk more, I want to see her tomorrow, but I can't, the guy I want to get over is working tomorrow. I wish I can socialize better offline. Do anybody know what to say if you want to talk more to try to make friends?



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07 Apr 2016, 9:28 pm

My advice would be to continue talking to that lady like you've been talking to her previously.

Don't mention that you "want to be friends." It might turn her off. Just allow the relationship to develop until you get to the point where you don't have to mention being friends--because you already ARE friends.



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07 Apr 2016, 11:03 pm

It's hard. I used to have a rule not to go out as friends (or date either) any of my co-workers. Now I'm down to 1.5 friends and this new woman at work wanted to go out "partying" at a bar. It takes me some time to "warm" up to people and I've just worked with her so far ONE time. PLUS, or I should say minus, I'm just not a bar person. I never drink and drive and I just hate the bar scene. I ended up going with another co-worker (my .5 friend) to a knitting/crochet get together - I'm never going back, but that's a whole other story. I do a lot of solo activities - knitting, coloring, video games if I had the time, movies, reading. Now, school is getting in the way and it's all online so I feel even more alone in my misery. My other 1 friend is working all of the time. My only real socialness is right here. Is that sad? I want to go to antique stores again, but my Ma isn't walking so well. I never thought that I ever really needed any friends cause I do like my alone time, but now that I don't have hardly any friends I just want to cry.


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08 Apr 2016, 2:46 am

You could once in a while drop something like: I'm always having such a nice chat with you. Or: Yesterday when I came back home I was thinking about what you said about (whatever made you think) and how smart/interesting/funny that was.
And just see what happens.