bad-weather only friends/family

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I feel like I'm gotten quite a bit of love and support from a lot of family and a friend, at least in terms of letting me know that they cared about me. But these are people I usually don't talk to. They're like...people who are generally there ONLY in times of crisis, apparently. Yet they don't really cross into our minds (well, not into mine at least) very often, they're on the outskirts of our lives. Is that not strange?

Or is it just that I've pushed them away the rest of the time? I know I didn't foster anything, but maybe I turned one-too many family events down?

No. It's pretty normal to forget to count family as friends and sources of social support. At least I haven't yet heard of anyone who automatically viewed them that way.

Funny that you're thinking about this, I have been too not so long ago.
It's kinda funny how we think that there's no one to talk to if it's so easy to call grandma or another family member.
They might even be the most accepting people we could ever know if we just open up to them.

I wish I could relate to this. In fair weather, my family (immediate and extended) seem to simply tolerate me. I'm not loud, obnoxious or rude and I show up to every family event. In bad weather, they are nowhere to be found save the odd time they run into me and ask me about such-and-such horrible thing they heard about, in which case the conversation devolves into a "well at least _____ " (fill in the blank). Are you feeling lonely the other times?

Oh this is only when it's gotten really bad. I've been cut off by family before when it's bad but not really bad. I'm lonely sometimes yes.

Isn't it better than these people rejecting you?

oh god yes. This wasnt a complaint but an observation.

I think when something bad happens is when you actually need people to be around. Much better then fair weather friends who are only around when the goods are flowing.