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I have problems with making friends
1. when I do make friends i dont stay friends long
2. cant find anyone with the same intrest(found one)
3. cant stay in or pay attention to group conversations long.
4. Im to nervous to approach

if you cannot understand what im typing let me know.

1. They may simply not be all that compatible with you. Don't lose hope because of that. If you make friends with someone, another thing to remember is that you have to let them know you care from time to time. Even if you don't see a need, there is one, the other person needs that reassurance.

2. That can be difficult. Try to find groups with specific interests similar to your own. Clubs, organizations, that kind of thing. That might help. Where are you at in school? If you are done, local groups or online groups would work. College, there's tons of student organizations on most college campuses. High school, there's usually some amount of clubs. Below that, I really don't know.

3. While paying attention is best, faking it can work as well. Nodding every so often, that kind of thing. Some might view this as insulting, but if it is done to avoid making the other people involved believe that you simply don't care, I don't think that's too terrible to do. It isn't that you don't care, as best as I can gather, but that you might come off that way.

4. Don't worry about approaching someone else. Just making yourself available can help. If you are around people that you would like to get to know better, don't feel like you have to charge in and start talking to someone, just don't stand in the corner or off to the side. You don't have to actively approach people, but you have to make sure you aren't avoiding people too much.

1.} Don't give up! It is very difficult to keep friends.
Most of your friends will be very casual and have no bond with you.

2.} If you can't find a group, create your own.

3.} Try to pay attention. Nodding or smiling proves that you vaguely care about what someone is talking about. Don't fake it, you might be shunned because of it.

4.} Being nervous is all right. Just don't avoid people or they will avoid you.
Read a book if you want someone to talk to you and try staring at their feet.

That's some good advice from you two!
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