How to tell whether a conversation has ended or not?

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Let's say I'm participating in an e-mail conversation with someone. When they acknowledge what I said, and say that they're looking forward to meeting me in person again to discuss about the topic in more detail, how am I supposed to respond? Am I supposed to respond at all? Or is the conversation considered to having ended?

And in general, at what point can an e-mail conversation be considered as having ended? When is one supposed to stop responding?

If someone says they look forward to meet you in person then I would suggest you to make a date to meet.

If its just a e-mail conversation then you can look for questions. If the person stop asking you questions then you dont have to respond.
Also if a conversation dies out it maybe can be you that didnt ask any questions either.
Ppl in general are bad at asking things and then conversations dies out very quickly.

It will end if
1. They stop talking about subject
2. If there is nothing else to say they will either smile at you or say very little
3. They will also look at their phone or turn to do something else
4. If it's online they will stop talking or responding to you
5. Also being more direct "Yeah I think we are done here" or "End of discussion" or "I'm done."

I've always loved and laughed a lot at the "bit" that Ellen Degeneres used to do in her stand-up routine, where she noticed that people winding up a conversation seem to go ".....anyway......." She even made it her sign-off logo at the end of her show. It's so true, people seem to use filler words like "....anyway...." "so....yeah....." to signal that the chat is coming to an natural ending place.

That's just face to face encounters, for e-mails and such, things already mentioned are good pointers.

Hello,
I can not say anything about Email conversations, but about real life. I often find myself in situations, where I talk to a person not very close to me. I never know when the conversation is over and sometimes I put an end to it and go away. But I feel unfriendly then.
I don't know whether I was wrong or right. Last week I met my assistant from the national autistic society in the headquarters, where I was for one- on one therapy.
When I went down to leave the house, I met her at the office door. It was a kind of awkward situation. I didn't know how long I should talk and when the conversation should be over politely.
I don't feel very bad about this, because she is my personal assistant. And she knows about my Asperger's. So she knows that I don't have a clue about social communication, how neurotypical people like to have it.

I'm afraid I cannot help you. I don't know a better way myself.

Regards, Sophia.

I struggle with understanding how a conversation ends too. I can usually pick up online if someone sends like a smiley face or actually says the conversation has ended that the conversation has come to an end - but with telephones/phones in general or knowing if someone is getting bored of ready to leave a table can also be hard to pick up.

Me and one of my Aspie friends email a lot and I never knew when the conversation was over - he would just stop talking. So I said it would really help me if one of us says something that let's the other one know that the conversation is over at that time. Now we say bye and that we are leaving. That helps me a lot because I'm used to NT's talking non-stop while some of my Aspie friends needed time to think about what they wanted to say.

For me if someone has stopped responding to you, it's safe to assume they are done talking to you. If they ignore at least two of your emails, assume they are ignoring you and they are done talking to you. If they are still interested in talking to you, they will respond or send you another message. That way you won't be harassing them.


If someone ignores a subject you are asking them, assume they don't want to talk about it. If they stop responding to what you are talking about and they only talk about other things, it means they are done with that topic.

As for when to stop responding, until you decide you are done talking or have nothing else to say to them. Just as long as you keep responding, the other person is going to think you still want to talk.

I don't think most people will be that direct, instead they will do something like this: they will "get busy" and then they slowly withdraw by responding less and less and doing shorter and shorter replies and taking longer to respond and then not at all as a way to be polite so they won't hurt your feelings. I think this is useful to do to people who are very sensitive to rejection or have social anxiety. The last thing you wanna do is make them worry and give them low self esteem and making them think there is something wrong with them and their social skills or making them withdraw from people even more because you had proven to them what they believe about themselves is true.

I have had some people "get busy" on me but I always think they were just being polite. I have had many others just quit coming online and others not respond anymore. Unless they quit being active on the forum, then I do believe they got busy for real than just being polite.

I'm terrible with this, I'll email back my support workers picking out stuff from the email they sent before they sent the ''I'll see you then'' email as I feel rude or that I haven't made enough conversation lol. A conversation also never ends with me physically either, I'll just keep blabbing on if it's something I find worth discussing and people are like why are you talking about that again, we were talking about THIS.