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Anyone else come across as less socially awkward than they feel? My NT friends don't find me awkward at all, just a little quirky in a nice way....but after any social gathering, I find myself second guessing everything I did, kicking myself for all these awkward things I thought I did.

Hah! Doesn't seem to matter age one is... This sure hit home for me...

My gal says I come across, well, you said it...

I try to tell her that it is most uncomfortable for me, and say: can we go somewhere quiet!...

I think that I come across WORSE than I feel.

I'm always wondering WTF's wrong with everyone else.

It's the opposite for me. A lot of the time I come off more socially awkward than I feel...which isn't good

Alot of the adults i speak to think i am really nice and come across well. Well those that think of me as a kid still. Those who are closer to my age say < 30 think I am strange I am 19.

I dont really have any friends my own age but when i have had them in the past I have had a series of really good friends that have lasted for maybe 18 months before they realise im not very good company. This is especially true when it is my friend and someone else, like a friend his. In a situation with a few people involved i really struggle and come across as very strange.

At school i always like to fill my breaks between classes with sport, that way I didnt have to make small talk with my peers, which is something I am terrible at.

Yeah, was the same way with me. I was just a little wierd to them and they put up with it. That changed a couple years ago though, a switch was flipped, all my little tendencies got worse, now they get annoyed and I obsess over my mistakes much more harshly.

Supposedly, I’m one of the most outwardly calm and gentle souls humanity has seen and known.

Their words....

Other people usually describe me as a bit shy but popular. At social gatherings I go find a task (like helping with the kitchen work or something) that gives me an excuse not to do any small talk (I adapt well to NT world, but small talk is one of those things I'll never understand) or I sit with some close friends. I only talk to strangers when it's impossible to avoid it, and I try to stick to "normal" topics like fashion or music. Joining the school's fashion design club helped. The most difficult thing is to remember to smile. People will think of you as a friendly person just because of smiling. That way, nobody has a reason to dislike me or to think I'm weird. It works. When a classmate saw a topic-related book in my bag, she asked me if "someone in my family has asperger's"...