Do you find it difficult to carry on everyday conversation

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Oh yes. I have to be lucky for the topic to be interesting for me to even ask anything or share what I have too.

I am TERRIBLE at conversation. It's part of AS. Since I learned about AS and came to understand why I'm so bad at it, I've been getting much better. I've been making conscious efforts to follow conversations' rhythms and ask the other person questions and avoid talking about my obsessions. It's still difficult because I don't know what to ask when I'm not interested in what the other person is saying, but I am improving.

I am not good at following conversations. I find most of the topics that people talk about boring. For example, when you have to ask someone what they did over summer break, do you really care? I never want to be rude and I want to give other people a chance to talk, but I find that I start to tune out if the topic isn't interesting to me. I also hate when people ask me questions I don't really know the answer to and then you feel pressured to answer correctly. I am also terrible at picking out topics to talk about, so I just keep quiet and perhaps the other person will start talking about something.

I prefer to be left alone most of the time because I don't feel like chatting. I'm lucky when I do find something interetsing to say. I have improved in the last five years.

I learnt trivial conversation, though it doesn't do much for me, except perhaps when I can observe that I am "playing the game" well.

What I find really difficult is when I'm caught in a conversation which is important to the other person (especially if emotionally important), but where I have no interest, and can't work out *why* they take it to be so important or moving.
There I may be operating only on a duty to "show care" and that can be very hard work.

I generally just get bored and leave. Though I'm getting better...

Good news is, most of my friends have pretty severe ADD...so they get bored too!

Oh yeah, definitely. I can only talk conversationally with certain people. I find myself talking AT people instead of talking WITH people very often.

I think almost everybody here will have problems with that. I usually don't know what to say, or I just get bored. Most conversations aren't actually really about anything. It's just people talking for the sake of talking, and it can get quite monotonous. That's just my opinion though, most people probably aren't interested in much I have to say either.

Yep I have problems with keeping with the general flow of conversations. I mostly avoid them if possible. Another problem is not having anything to say. My observation of typical NT small talk is women b***h about their husband, say what cute thing their little toddler did, how they are planning for their weekend trip or how drunk they got the previous weekend. Males talk about sports or they just don't talk. Since I have no relationship, no kids, don't go anywhere and don't like sports I have nothing to contribute to the typical conversation.

Reminds me of a couple I hadn't seen in awhile that I run into at restaurant as I am dining alone of course. They ask what have I been up to. Jeez what am I suppose to say? My whole life is working, eating, sleeping and constantly going to the doctor as I have been ill for several years now. If you have a boring life what is there to talk about? Unless someone wants to discuss weather, the news, b***h about Republicans or discuss fishing there is nothing I can contribute to the conversation.

I can talk to adults usually fine because I talk about politics, news, science, music, etc. But people my own age often only talk about fashion, celebraties and things I don't even know anything about so I never know how to join in. If I do ever go out with someone I know I tend to go to the cinema because then you don't have to chat. Unless it's an adult then I like talking.

I think small talk was created by sadistic idiots who weren't creative enough to think up any other way to get to know people other then boring them to death talking about the weather. Personally, I don't think killing someone by boredom is very polite. People who engage in small talk should just be told to shut up!

I can talk conversationally... for a while. That "for a while" can last for varying lengths of time according to what the subject of conversation is. And often I find myself wanting to return to something I wanted to talk about, rather than keeping with the natural flow of the conversation.

Which doesn't help.

yeah I make an ass of myself...which made me realise I was different and people saw me as weird and I lost a lot of friends...

it's hard