Help me understand this conversation with my teacher?

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Yesterday I told a teacher, who I have frequently sought advice from before and who I like I think I have a friendship with, that I have Aspergers. There are two particular points in the conversation where she said things I'm unsure how to interpret, so hopefully someone can help.

1) When I said 'I have Aspergers Syndrome', she did not look surprised and said that being a teacher, she has met many other Aspies, and that she thinks I'm one of the most 'socially competent'. I feel like this implies she'd already guessed I have Aspergers, am I right about this. The next thing she said was when was I diagnosed, and I said I haven't been and she asked how I'd found out.

2) We talked for about fifteen minutes and and the end she said something like 'I really enjoy talking to you'. I'm unsure whether she was being polite and/or trying to improve my self esteem or something, or whether she was telling the truth. Does anyone have any insight into this? I really want to think she enjoys my company but I'm hesitant to jump to any conclusions.

Unfortunately without an idea of how her voice had fluctuated when she said that to you, it's very difficult to determine what or how she meant. But if she is a teacher who has had a lot of kids with AS in her classes before, she probably knows a thing or two about how to speak to them, and most likely knows to be genuine with her words and not give you any subtle, verbal "hints" that might be very hard to interpret as an aspie. So saying "I really enjoy talking to you" is probably not only a reassurance to you that she does not judge you for your condition, but also a genuine statement where, yes, she really does enjoy having conversations with you.

By socially competent, she's saying that you actually have very good social skills for having AS. You're able to excel in your social behavior where others cannot.

I agree with Lu. Especially if you find her to be a good teacher, and if it seems that she enjoys talking to other kids.

Thank you both, I'm very glad you think she was being genuine And sorry for taking so long to reply!

I may be biased, but I don't think that teachers are good friendship material, it never ends well.

I don't know about how it's working out for you, but I would keep them at arm's length.