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After work I went out to lunch at downtown in a city mall and then walked out to where they were having a weekly farmer's market. One of the booths happened to be sampling organic cookies. They also had a jar where I could put my business card into a jar. I also sampled some cookies. When it attempted to interact with her things felt pretty awkward.

1. I told her that I had put my card into the jar and she seemed to get this sarcastic smirk on her face. So I asked her what the special was and she appeared like she wasn't all that excited to hear about my mentioning it. So I had attempted to ask her what the promotion was but she seemed to speak to me in a very low and smart alec tone.

2. I complimented her on the cookies along with asking her where the physical location of the bakery was and she said that she currently had no physical location.

3. I went on to take a flier and tell her "You deserve to have a bakery because these are really good." She looked at me really funny like I was some sort of weirdo. I repeated myself and instead of saying "Thank you" she looked at me really funny and seemed to give a rather snide and angry response. "Yeah I know." So I said "Ok thank you and namaste" before moving on.

What did I do wrong?

maybe there was more to it, but judging by the "yeah i know", i'd say it sounds like a regular case of grumpiness. if you didn't actually see her being friendly to anyone, then that's probably it

maybe she thought you were mocking her or being condescending when you said that the cookies were good. or maybe she thought "i know, right? my cookies are great, why don't i have a bakery of my own? it's not fair, and i'm tired of people reminding me of it". or maybe she was just in a bad mood for something completely unrelated, and wishing she were somewhere else

not much you can do about that other than "thank you and namaste"

Sounds like she was in a bad mood.

Not great publicity for her bakery!

There are indeed grumpy sellers out there
in places like farmers markets.
She sounds like someone running her own business out of her house
rather than an actual bakery in a brick-and-mortar store.

Sometimes these sellers will indeed smirk at you for no reason,
and they hope you won't notice if they're having a sale ...
they'd prefer you to pay full price ... more money for them.

And then, when you asked about where the bakery was located
and said that her cookies were good enough to be in a bakery,
it's possible that she took offense because
"the bakery" is just her humble kitchen in her house
and also
she probably in fact thinks her cookies are far BETTER than what's in an actual bakery,
because maybe she uses all organic ingredients
whereas bakeries use artificial chemical preservatives.

That's my best guess, anyways.

How common are people rude at farmer's markets like that?

Also I looked at the reviews for the bakery which she has gotten 5 star several times I also looked at her website and she sells baked goods online as well as traveling to local festivals and farmers markets.

She was just being a b***h that day. For whatever reason.

I would just forget about it, and move on.

I wanted to know if others thought I was being a pest.

Luckily for me I picked up her flier and looked up her online bakery that her e-mail and looked up a website along with doing two things.

1. I went to yelp and gave her a bad review about her poor costumer service
2. I also looked up an website that allows you to make create and send anonymous e-mails and I simply told her how I felt and that that she was quite unprofessional. I also said "What's wrong with taking a compliment and saying thank you ma'am? I was really planning on doing business with you but I don't anymore."

I know that she didn't learn anything and she is welcome to act like she is more important at the same time I felt that she needed to know that my feelings were hurt and that I looked forward to doing business with her and she lost that privilege from me.

Ok, but now it's time to move on and find a new, kinder source of delicious cookies

Starstride rising, I am going to invest into looking at some other farmer's markets and I heard there is supposed to be a nice one that's much bigger.

Kronos- To tell you the truth she looked like she was very insecure because she was giving the vendors next to her a look of jealousy.

Let me start off with the assumption that you have an autism spectrum disorder, which is the reason you are here at WrongPlanet.

I think, based on the above assumption, there is a possibility you misread this vendors cues and saw hostility where there was none.

In cases like this, it's fine to say "thank you, have a nice day" whether you feel that sentiment or not (it never hurts to be nice) and then just move on to the next vendor. There is no need to escalate the encounter to a federal case. Just let it go.