Anyone follow a script when they talk to people?

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I don't know maybe it something that alot of people do. Like when I talk to people I sort a plan what I am gonna say and it normally is generic like the weather, tv shows, and I have a really bad habit of repeating conversions with people. I can fool people at first thinking that I have really good social skills but then after while they will realize how awkward I become. But most people don't mind though. If I don't follow my script I might say something inappropriate and weird.

Does anyone else do this?

Last edited by Aspergirl16 on 07 Aug 2016, 3:08 am, edited 1 time in total.

Yes, that's me exactly.

I tend to start relaxing with the scripting when I start to feel very comfortable around someone. At which point, I tend to lose them.

Awww! :hugs:

I try to avoid following scripts, because I think it sounds hollow and profoundly disrespectful, and feel quite bad when there doesn't seem to be anything non-stereotyped for me to say in the situation at hand. For example, when I can't avoid speaking the same exact words to several people in a row, I think I'm subtly insulting them by downplaying their individuality and implying they don't deserve much effort on my part to say something original each time.

The problem with alot of people now days is that they are on there smartphones alot (not trying to be pretentious like oh " new media is evil!") I find it hard to have a deep conversation some just have a small convo then go back on there phone. (not everyone obviously) which is fine for them but makes me rely more on script more it's annoying.

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Not once a conversation is up and running. But I tend to find that I need a script for unexpected situations that might throw me off balance. Things like having to tell someone I'm actually running late and can't stop to speak, or that I have to go, or if someone asks a question I know I don't want to ramble on about and I need a concise thing to say.

I have certain aspects of myself and my life that needed to be cut down to a one-sentence response in order not to bore someone, disclose private things that I don't want to talk about to a stranger, etc. So I've had to strive to keep a mental script for those issues.

Other than that I usually have a conversation the normal way although I have bad processing times and it can be a struggle to express what I know I want to say.

This would be different to how I script.

I don't say the same things to several people in a row or resort to stereotypes, necessarily, but I script each individual conversation. They're still unique. I just plan in advance. Sometimes I plan for days and prepare them, sometimes for hours, sometimes minutes. If I'm really wrapped up in a conversation, that's when I start to struggle - I either spend my time scripting and miss that point because everyone else has moved on whilst I'm thinking about it (usually, I end up then trying to bring that conversation back which seems weird), or I stop scripting and usually start to sound more noticeably 'odd' with the things that I say or how my words come out, or if it's a group conversation I stop talking and just observe.

I don't tend to reuse scripts, though, if that makes sense. I can't even have two very similar phone conversations (say, both to book appointments) without re-scripting from the start.

That reminds me -- phone calls. If I know I need to make a phone call for a specific reason, and it's not a friendly chat with someone I know, but instead to book an appointment, make an enquiry to a retail store, etc, I definitely have to script-out what I need to say beforehand. I can't handle it well any other way.

Indeed.

And my issue then, another problem with scripting, is that I do tend to launch straight into my script and miss out the chatting. Someone answers the phone with "Hello, XXXXX speaking, how are you?" and I launch straight into "Hi, I'd like to book an appointment, please?". It probably comes across as a bit unfriendly. I don't put space in my scripts for 'I'm good thanks, how are you?'.

I'm the same way, ArielsSong!! I'm so focused on my script to book the appointment or whatever it may be, that if someone says something that doesn't fit the script, it's a problem, lol! I've done exactly the same thing -- failed to respond to "how ya doing today?" and just carried on with the issue I'm bent on establishing.

I've never ever wanted to be rude like that but of course people think "Wow she's rude!"

It's one of the worst things about having a certain rigidity in things of this nature. Oh god....so bad. And my processing means maybe four sentences later I will try to repair the damage, but that's a mess too. Aagh.