What do you think of the word "rude"?

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What do you think of the word “rude”? I dislike it because it implicitly equates the failure to follow neurotypical norms of politeness with the intent to be mean to others. I personally prefer to use words that mean one or the other, rather than equating the two. Forgetting to say “thank you” when someone does you a favor or accidentally not following the invisible rules of social is not comparable to deliberately insulting someone, yet the word “rude” could be used to describe both.

I generally use the term "rude" to describe someone who doesn't care about other people's feelings. They just do whatever they want, even if it annoys or upsets people, without any real purpose to do so. Generally when the person is driven by feelings of superiority and/or malice. So I guess you could say, my interpretation of "rude" mostly applies to trolls.

In terms of following social norms: how you talk, how you dress, how you behave. Oftentimes, this is just a difference in culture, not actual "rudeness". Over the years, people have somehow twisted the definition of rude into meaning, "Oh, you're etiquette is different from mine", and they use it to portray you as a selfish person.

The irony is, they're the rude and selfish ones, because they're trying to conform you to their standards of living, the way they've been raised. And they show zero tolerance for anything that's different from what they know.

Sometimes, it's a case of "if the shoe fits, wear it."

Sometimes, though, people broaden the definition of "rude" to an absurd degree--to the point where every little thing which irritates a person, or goes against their ideological orientation, is deemed "rude."

If somebody plays music at 3 in the morning, while I am sleeping, the person is definitely "rude."

If a person disagrees vehemently with something I said, the disagreement itself doesn't constitute "rudeness." It's the way the disagreement is expressed. If personal insults are traded, there's "rudeness" going on. If an ideology is criticized, then it's proper conduct.

Rude, crude, and socially unacceptable. That's all I ever heard growing up.

So as a result, I wouldn't call someone else that - it would feel entitled and "rude" to me.

If somebody's preaching at the top of their lungs on a subway train, I find that to be quite rude!

Especially when I'm trying to doze off after a tough day.

It's obnoxious to, say, refuse to listen to somebody when they ask, please, turn the damn radio down!

"Obnoxious" is one of the words that I prefer to use instead of "rude" because it implies something that is objectively bad, rather than just inconsistent with artificial codes of etiquette.

I think, when a person is obnoxious, that they are TRULY rude.

I use it sometimes, but I often would prefer to say something is mean or hurtful. I feel that gets to the point better, of why the behaviour is wrong. Also, I feel the word can be overused, to the point where reacting to someone saying something hurtful can be called rude.

Rude and Obnoxious are words about social relations. You really can't be rude alone.

So, it comes down to social expectations and rules. Someone else's boombox or attitude may be something I don't like, that's for sure. But I think to call them rude depends on a social framework. Ok, maybe that's all an obvious statement.

I'm going to throw another word into the mix. I moved here and was confused when people would used the word ignorant in place of rude.

"You're just being ignorant" or "That's ignorant" doesn't mean, you're being stupid, it means you're being rude.

I don't quite understand why someone would forget to say thank you when someone else does something for them. It's a way to show appreciation in a simple way with 2 little words.

It's just a made up word by everyone, any behavior you don't like or what you find offensive is what is considered rude. There are no strict rules about what is rude behavior, it's only made up by people and society.

I disagree, it's alot to do with how our actions make other people feel. Some of the rules are pretty standard.

On Babycenter I saw the word being thrown around, anything they didn't like they called it rude. So that is how I came to that observation.

I use the word 'rude', but in a rather different way from most people. I use it to underexaggerate things that are really terrible. I use it like 'cruel', I guess.

"She murdered her own son!"
"That's quite rude."

I have no idea when or why I started using it like that. O.o