Keeping in Contact with People

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I suck at keeping in contact with people. Is this common for you all as well?

Maintaining relationships is difficult for me. I want to keep my relatives pleased and keep the friends I make, but I am not able to message them back with any regularity. If its not immediate family, I may not reply at all. This is because I either don't know how to respond to the message or don't feel very much like conversing at the time. My immediate family has given up and just accepts that I don't call much. And my poor communication probably makes other relatives and friends feel bad. I realized recently that messaging back quickly for some people is a big deal.

If you are like me in this way, what do you do?

I am exactly the same.

I want to keep in contact with people, but I simply don't think to send them a message or sort out getting together.

With talking online, I just forget that I have to actually start conversations. I don't think to talk to people.

Even if I do manage to remember to contact someone, I'm faced with the issue that I'm incredibly indecisive and also find it hard to build myself up to socialising, even with people that I enjoy being with. So, if they suggest "shall we do something later this week?" I feel it's too soon and I get stressed, so I'll put off contacting someone if I don't feel 'ready' to meet. It's not just about finding a free hour or two that I can meet them in - it's about having time to prepare beforehand, which also means that I like to know what we're doing so if we arrange a time but we don't know where we're meeting or what we're doing, that's also incredibly stressful.

And if we don't immediately pin a date down then I end up saying I'll check my calendar and then, again, I forget to do it and we're back in the same situation.

Or, I manage to remember to contact someone and for whatever reason they forget to respond, I feel like I'm hassling to be the next one to make contact again, so we end up going for months because I don't prompt a response.

It's a wonder I ever manage to meet with people!

I dont keep in contact with my family all that much. A little facebook time and a arms length aways is good for me to catch up on their lives, they aint bad people or anything I am just a little rough around the edges and allergic to drama, which there is plentyof over there. Keeping people intrested is my biggest challenge so I can become a great friend, I suppose I dont have a wide variaty of topics to keep people around me and like certian things, so its a challenge. Just need to find my nitch as they say somewhere but I am hopefull,

I diligently reply to all emails I get, and all PMs I get, as long as the people emailing and PMing me are on the level.

I hope my level is high in your estimation.

We'll have to get you a girl...somehow!

^^^I appreciate your kind thoughts