Suck at making friends??

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Hihi im new here, i literally have no friends lol, maybe i just suck at socializing or my social anxiey gets to me.... I love singing, art, music, makeup, im a female but a beast at video-games i have level autism even though i look like i dont have autism! Lol

does anyone suck at making friends also? Does anyone have instagram ? Lets follow eachother ! Follow me on my art instagram @ artbyrosieh

Hello, welcome to the site!

I'm pretty bad at making friends too. I love music and video games as well! I don't use Instagram though.

Outside of working and occasional travel, I don't get out enough to meet anyone. My keepers have just started bringing a couple of people over. They play games with me, watch stuff on YouTube with me and read to me at night. It's pretty nice.

Welcome to WP. How/where do you try to make friends? I find it difficult to make new friends also. Many people stay at that more-than-an-acquaintance, not-quite-a-reliable-friend stage. Some of that is people's busy lives. Some has to do with whether we have a lot in common. The other side is just not taking the first step and asking to hang out outside of whatever context I see them in.

You might consider learning some social skills and look at joining some special interest groups. However, video games are not any different than watching television which will not get you any friends. Besides, there is more to life as well.

If you would like to look at improving your social skills and making friends, I have two resources out there for you

1. Improve your social skills.com by Daniel Wendler who also has Asperger's
2. Check out "Asperger Experts" as well

Summer_Twilight, I read that book as part of Kindle Unlimited. It's a good place to start because even if you find some or much of the info to be common sense, it's laid out well. The book sparked good questions for me. Also, as a blind person, I liked the simple framework the book used to describe the body language I can't see.

I'm in my 70s now and, all my life, sucked at making friends. Still suck. Staying in contact, even by email, is a chore rather than anything else. It is only about a decade since I found out about Asperger's and now understand myself a great deal more. A few years ago I was suddenly hospitalized for a week and had nothing to read except free books I had downloaded on my iPad. One happened to be letters of Beethoven ("Dear Countess, I am so very sorry I did not recognize you last evening. I am profoundly grateful for all of your kind assistance and hope anything I said did not offend.") and another was letters of Franz Liszt ("Heinrich, it was so nice to see you again after such a long time. I am always in contact with your friends whenever I am in Bonn and await your visit to St. Tropez this summer!"). You could not have a greater contrast between an Asperger and a non.

I suck but it's because I don't try or care. I rather enjoy my own company and don't feel a strong need to socialize.

One problem I have is, due to my fine stationery obsession, I have nice stationery and rarely someone to write to. The upside is that I enjoy looking at it. Maybe it's not really a problem.

There's something to be said for not having to share one's caramel popcorn at the movies when one goes alone.